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I am new to the BPD family. This is my first post on the staying together board. But i did post on the new members board-my wife and BPD. My wife is suspected to have BPD by our therapist. I decided to leave home for a few days to try and show her that I would no longer take the harsh words and name calling - an attempt to get some power back. So it was very hard but in the end i did finally get her to say "sorry for saying hurtful things to you" which is kinda a big win.
So for the last day and a half she has been very sweet, loving and reasonable more so then in a very long time. But tonight we were at the store getting me some new shirts etc. And then she asked if wanted to look for kid shorts etc. I said no. And then that I did not want to do any extra shopping. Lets just grab what we need for food and get out of here. This was taken as an extremely rude thing. She asked me to apologize. And I refused I am now trying not to apologize in this kinda situation. Any way after about an hour she is suggesting that we make plans for one of us to go some where else for the night as we are not getting along. I gave up and said sorry for the store. This set her off even more. She refused it and yelled at me. Now she is in an very agitated anger mood. We are not talking. ... . now she is yelling at my son... . how can I end this current conflict but still try to save some dignity. I feel like I just trashed out the improvement I got by leaving for two days... .
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Well it has ended for now. She got me to say sorry again. I know that is probably the worst thing to do. I don't know. But I did find out what set her off at the store. when I said that I did not what to do any extra shopping she thought I was accusing her of inappropriate excessive shopping. ...
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Suggestions on how I can better handle this type of situation in the future. ... please
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