Ack Contact

[willy45]

Blah... .

What the heck. Just got an email from ex. For those of you who know my story, I'm 2 years out. Told her a gazillion times to stop contacting me. Was stupid and actually agreed to talk to her about a 6 weeks ago. Fell into horrid depression. Told her it hurt me when she contacted me and asked her to stop. She emailed back to say 'no', she wasn't going to be out of contact. I didn't respond.

Lo and behold an email is in my Trash right now from her. I had a huge project that went live a couple of weeks ago that got world wide press. I know she must have heard about it and seen it. I read the heading of the email and the first line... . (STUPID GMAIL TRASH) and her email is along the lines of the project. I'm assuming that her hearing about this all the time probably made her crazy jealous or something. Who knows. I figured it didn't pop up on her radar screen.

MOTHER F&CKER!

Sorry. A vent.

How does she know when I'm feeling good? The last couple of days I've felt better than I have in months. New energy. Ruminations lessening. More energy. The whole thing. This always friggin happens. It is like she knows when I'm detaching or something. It is creepy.

Don't worry. I won't respond. Just What the heck.

[Emelie Emelie]

Sorry Willy - you know I do think they have a weird sort of sixth sense about when we're detaching.  More importantly... . congratulations on your project!  It must have been quite significant to garner world press.  Vent away but enjoy your success!

[corraline]

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willy, is she blocked on your gmail  ?  i have my ex blocked on gmail , sent to archive.  i dont see it at all. We have to realize that they may never give up but we need to find the ways to block them effectively if they trigger us.

my ex showed up at my work and called there too. he was calling my landline. i never picked up or responded. i have heard nothing other than  i did get a happy mothers day sent to both of my gmail accounts but i realize that i messed up on how i set the filter.

we can't hide out in a cave to protect ourselves from them, thats just unrealistic... . the only way we can truly feel safe is through strengthening our will to become healthier . i believe that comes to us in different ways... . but it has to be the priority right now.

[bunnyrabit]

Mine also contacts whenever she pleases, whether I ask her not to or not doesn't seem to make any difference. So either they can't understand why it can be very difficult for us or they just don't care... . I really don't know.

I'm trying now to not give any meaning or value to her texts or whatever as they're just brain farts from a deranged person anyway and I try to take it as that... .

[willy45]

Thanks all. Yes. I have all the power to ignore and delete.

And thanks for the congratulations Emilie Times 2. Been trying to enjoy it while dealing with all this. It definitely was my biggest achievement. Launched at the White House and got tons of props from both the highest levels of government and media around the world. Was pretty rad. Just goes to show how destructive these rs's are because I could only obsess about my ex the whole time. So stupid.

And yes to brain farts from a deranged person. I like that. Makes it as small as it needs to be.

[Emelie Emelie]

Yes... . mine broke up with me the first time less than a week before I got the promotion/job I'd been working for my whole life.  I was so mad that I was unable to enjoy it... . savor it... . because I was obsessing over him.  I even signed my contract without reading it carefully or consulting an attorney because I just didn't care.  Let's just say that was a big mistake.  And totally unlike me.  But I was a freaking mess.  Of course he knew all this was coming down... . I'd either get the job or I wouldn't in the next week and he chose that moment in time to end the rs.  Okay... . not fair... . he wasn't capable of "choosing a time".  He just blew up when he blew up. 

It just kills me that round two followed the exact same pattern albeit over a shorter time frame.  Can't they freaking see that? 

[Hurtbeyondrepair27]

Mine just contacted too.

I have never felt better.

Def a 6th sense.

Fortunetly, I dont feel stuck in him.

And dont really care its a great feeling.

[willy45]

Yeah. It's weird. But I feel pretty good. I haven't actually read the email. Just sitting in my trash. To afraid to even open the trash. Right now I'm feeling pretty detached. I have good friends so don't need that. And I want to start working on my FOO stuff and take my time with it. There's only pain on the other side of contact. I definitely dont want to be with her. I don't think I could stand being with her in any capacity. Too many other important things to do.