I need to stay from my BPDw when she is in her negative moods

[Samuel S.]

Now that my BPDw's first year of school is over and now that she is back here on a regular basis, a lot has been going on. Her D17 just graduated from high school and will be attending a university about 1 1/2 hours away from here in the Fall. So, my BPDw and her D17 are having more quality time together with my BPDw already missing her. Her D17 is celebrating to the max and also has a boy friend who has had a reputation of wanting to be intimate with girls as often as possible. Her D17 realizes this, but still goes out with him while my BPDw degrades all boys. My BPDw is also not really happy due to the fact that she is not back at school where she frankly wants to be instead of here. So, the result of these things has made her rather negative while she pretends to be positive with relatives and friends. Yet, she lowers her guard with me and demeans others. So, I do my best to validate her feelings, stay silent when she speaks, and stay away from her when she gets into her negative moods which is quite often. In fact, out of consideration to the two of them, I am making it a point to get out of the house as often as I can so that they can be by themselves. I am doing loads of positive things for myself, but to be truthful, with all the validation and listening that I am doing, I am a positive guy, and my BPDw's attitude before and now can really wear me down. I realize I need to stay away from her when she is in her negative moods, but sometimes, it is plain difficult to do.

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