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« on: May 27, 2014, 08:33:00 PM »

I dont get it.  Why is it that when I google "emotional unstable",  there are a bunch of links to BPD information.   Surely a person can be emo unstable and NOT have BPD?

Why is emotional instability disorder aka borderline?   According to google search... .

I ask because I know 110% my  uBPDexgf is emo unstable but not 100% shes BPD only do to her being undiagnosed... .

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« Reply #1 on: May 27, 2014, 08:51:14 PM »

Yes according to the DSM IV criteria, they must also have at least 5 of the 9 specific criteria, in order to be diagnosed as having Borderline Personality Disorder.

So I agree with you, that according to the DSM IV criteria, simply being "emotionally unstable" does not mean the person has BPD.

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« Reply #2 on: May 27, 2014, 09:03:13 PM »

Emotional instability is one manifestation of BPD but also could be attributed to other factor.  Could be that the majority of sites with BPD info link have keyword "emotional instability".  

I have emotionally unstable relatives that I would not say suffer from BPD.  BPD symptoms were super clear to me when I saw them in play.  Nothing that I ever experienced before.  

You should take a look at the other symptoms of BPD.  
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« Reply #3 on: May 27, 2014, 09:06:18 PM »

This is a good question,

I have wondered the same since I found out about BPD. how do I/you really get to know if someone truly has BPD or not? My ex was promiscuous and loved attention, drove insane, lied to everyone, friends, family, me, seemed to create drama, she had poor work ethics. Are those the founding traits of BPD   . I have read about the 9 traits of symtoms of BPD. I believe 1 in 4 girls have the symptoms. Correct me if I am wrong, but that's scary.

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« Reply #4 on: May 27, 2014, 11:15:45 PM »

Lucky,

Hopefully you dont mind. I am bumping this post for some replies... .
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« Reply #5 on: May 27, 2014, 11:38:01 PM »

Whoa Nelly! 1 in  4 would really make relationships pretty risky.  

According to the National Institute of Health they estimate about 1.6% of the adult US population.   They've also reported gender and race didn't play a role in personality disorders.

Reported statistics in studies have been changing over the years as far as the gender disaprity. This may attributed to several factors... . Low rates of males to seek medical/psychological treatment historically.  One thing remains pretty consistent is the extraordinarily high suicide rate among people suffering with the disorder.

The hall marks of BPD are hostility,  wildly varying moods often within a day, splitting, fear of abandonment or rejection, poor coping skills that lead to self destructive behavior like drug use, gambling, etc., impulsivity,  suicidal ideation or attempts and paranoia or dissociative episodes brought on by emotional stressors.  What this looks like in real time, or manifests in behavior, varies person to person.  Some people with BPD may engage in risky sex to self soothe while others don't ... . They may cut themselves instead.  

This pattern is consistent.  It isn't one off thing where someone has bad relationship with a person and there were breakups and heartache.  It's a fairly profound level of interrelationship dysfunction.

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Surely a person can be emo unstable and NOT have BPD?

absolutely... . people with depression, bipolar disorder,  anxiety and other mood disorders can be emotionally unstable.  People with BPD tend to be hypersensitive to real and imagined slights and have volatile reactions.

The tendency is extreme reactions.  And it's the rule not the exception.  The pattern is pervasive and longstanding beyond adolescence and into adulthood across many spectrums of the life like family, friends and work.  
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