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[antjs]

today was my 8th therapy session. I have been talking to my therapist about myself (not her) for 3 or 4 sessions now. I asked my therapist today what is wrong with me ? he informed me that he can not find anything abnormal with me. he said everyone has traits and i can't find a negative trait that is so obvious and might cause you any issue. he said that i am not co-dependent and he can not find anything with my childhood. he also added that i was quick to figure out the relationship so early (only in a month) and leave her. he said i am hard on myself cause i wanted to feel ok and "healed" so soon (i have been out for 2 months now). he added that i should work on my confidence cause i had phase life crisis and was vulnerable when i met her. ptsd is fading out. he said "dont underestimate what you have been through. it was so traumatic. anyone would fall for the same stuff that you have been through except if he\she is a saint or already in a relationship with another woman. your exBPDgf is very low functioning. can not you see that she has unstable relationships and jobs all the time. be kind to yourself." i am so relieved cause of his statements. he also said that any upcoming sessions are optional for me. to be honest i can't stop visiting this board. i like you people here. you are so loving, caring and decent people. I am here for any help and ready to answer any questions of your's.

[LettingGo14]

That's good stuff, antony_james.  I am struck by the power of the healing you gave yourself.   You recognized that: (a) you are ok, (b) the experience was traumatic, and (c) there's power in helping others heal.

We often feel so broken, and shattered, and lost.   And we look for answers.  Sometimes we hear another person's story and it resonates -- and we don't feel so lost.  Sometimes another person gives us comfort that we are okay -- and then we allow ourselves to feel okay.

Invariably, our answers -- the big ones -- come from within us.  Thanks for sharing.

[earthgirl]

Good work, Antony_James!  You figured things out much more quickly than I did.    It's so good to see happy news on this board. 

You deserve to be happy.   

[Ihope2]

  It is nice to hear.  Joy, serenity and contentment is what we all deserve.  And to live as our Authentic Self and have positive and uplifting relationships with other authentic people. 

[seeking balance]

he said i am hard on myself cause i wanted to feel ok and "healed" so soon (i have been out for 2 months now). he added that i should work on my confidence cause i had phase life crisis and was vulnerable when i met her. ptsd is fading out. he said "dont underestimate what you have been through. it was so traumatic. anyone would fall for the same stuff that you have been through except if he\she is a saint or already in a relationship with another woman.

You left after a month, that speaks volumes about you.  If you have never had a trauma, this is indeed very real trauma in your life.  Trauma takes time to work through - it just does.

Be kind and patient with yourself - sounds like you have a good T. 

Peace,

SB