She might be using the inpatient stay as a way to take a break, that's what my SO's uBPDex has occasionally done when things became too overwhelming.
Glad to hear about the Attorney. Hope things cool down a little bit you've had a heck of a time.
last night she was pretty cold and snapped suddenly at some strange things. She still wanted to meet with my mother though tonight... without me...
She then went to bed early and our kid was still out with grandparents. She said to leave the room and do whatever I want and handle him. So after 45 minutes, he came home, and i had him take a shower and clean up, then i got on my computer and did a little work and goofed off for about an hour and half. Went to go to bed and she told me basically to sleep downstairs. So I did. At 3 am she comes in and asks me to come back to bed if i want. SO i did, and she proceeded to get angry with me that I was on my computer while she was sleeping and hurting.
To which I said, if I was upset and in bed, you would still live life. You told me to do whatever, and you would not let me in the room, so I did whatever. Same story, I never care... I say if i did not care, I would not be still trying, and I am sure all she is going through is unimaginably hard, and I feel horrible she has all of this going on.
I do not know where we stand...
She tells me today to go ahead and come with her to my moms tonight or to let my mom out of it if she wants.
My mom I guess was under impression it was all of us anyways, and was going to have her granddaughters bday tonight anyways which I know will infuriate my wife, total misunderstanding, but deadly for me. Mom said she could meet with my wife on Thursday though...
Its like the BPD can see their own pain but oblivious to that of everyone else and everyone elses circumstances. They are hurt and flawed, but others cannot be and will not be tolerated