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Justplaintired

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« on: June 03, 2014, 05:35:08 PM »

Last week my former BPD partner called my phone and blocked her number.  I have access to her phone bill as I used to pay for it and she never changed her password, so I knew it was her.  The calls were 4 hours apart and there was one that went to voice mail (no message) and another that was hung up.  The last was at 12:30 am.  After my research, I sent a text asking her not to do it.  Forty minutes later, I was called again, with number blocked. (this one was not from her phone)  This time it was a voice mail from a male, telling me to leave her alone.  Obviously puzzling since she initiated the contact and all I did, was ask her to stop. 

What does all of this mean?  Any ideas?  I am afraid  she is telling people I am harassing her, when I have had no contact.  Or is she trying to contact me and when I let her know, I knew it was her, did she respond by making a story up, so her "friend" would call me?

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AwakenedOne
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« Reply #1 on: June 03, 2014, 11:28:33 PM »

The message was from a man telling me (with extreme profanity) to leave her alone. 

Whatever the reason she's contacting you for is not good. Right? It's either some weird drama, crazy stalking or she's setting you up for this dude to yell at you.

NC all the way seems to be your escape. Don't get in trouble with this guy either. If she's telling people lies that your harassing her nothing really you can do right? Probably best to stay above all of that.

My advice is enjoy life now without the extra headache that she is attempting to give you.

Peace,

AO
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« Reply #2 on: June 04, 2014, 01:51:28 AM »

 

Who really knows what the loonies are up to?  You tried like the dickens to understand her while in the relationship, and that got you nowhere.  Why would it be any different now that she has moved on to some other drama?  I understand your curiosity, I would be too.  I would probably post here about it, laugh and wonder a bit, and then send his blocked calls to voicemail and go on with my life. 

Make a copy of where she called you and tuck it away for safe keeping, and forget about it.  The more you become involved, the more chance of you being hailed as a hero or convicted as a villain... .     Where you find one, the other will soon follow... again, and again, and again... . to infinity and beyond.

take care 
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