Hi, I am a 22 year old male who has a child with a 22 year old female with BPD. My ex gf and I started dating 2 and a half years ago and things were spectacular! Being with her felt like I was invincible. Well, a month into the relationship we were listening to the song "free falling" but it was a remake of John Mayer. I started to make fun of the song, singing it in a funny way. She got really mad and just stopped talking. I tried to get her to speak, but she would just tell me to leave her alone. We all know how the story with BPD goes, so I won't go too much into detail about what happens in a relationship with a person with BPD. Anyways, three months into our relationship she comes over to my house one day and tells me she's pregnant. I knew I was the father because we had been with each other almost every single day since we dated. I calmly told her I will be here for my child and I would support her through all this... . and so I did. After my son was born, we argued on and off, and also broke the relationship on and off constantly. About three months ago, I broke it off with her because she kept telling me she wanted to move out with me to my father's house, but every time she talked to her father about the idea, he never approved, which I believe kept holding her back. Once I broke it off with her, I spent 2 and a half months crying my eyes out, telling myself it was the right thing to do. Well, three months into our break up, I find out she got a new bf 2 months after our breakup. I felt like life itself had ended around me. The air was taken out of my body, and I literally suffocated. I puked my guts out after seeing the picture of the two of them on Facebook. The answer to not get back with her is obvious and just be there for my son, but I have some concerns. It's been 2 months since she's been with this guy, but I know eventually she will end up behaving the same way with him that she did with me. I have been going to see a therapist, taking anti-depressants, and the pain is slowly getting better. However, every time I drive to her house to pick up my son and see his car there, I get that painful feeling in the pit of my stomach. She walks my son out and I take him to the park, or just go do something with him. When I drop him back off, she's always gone with him, and I end up dropping him off to her grandparents, which makes me feel so terrible of a father, because I'm supposed to be the one raising my son, not being the visitor. She has no job, doesn't do school, and her bf is the same. I work full time as a salesman and have been trying to work my way up in the company I work for.
She told me after I confronted her about her bf, "We were never meant for each other". I was her 3rd bf, and she's had sex with 4 guys and has done sexual activities with 3 others.
We haven't had any contact about us in 3 months. So, the question I ask here is, will she eventually try and come back to me?
If so, I want to have the strength to tell her she had her chance, but I'm not entirely sure that I'm strong enough yet.
Thanks for your support!
