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Author Topic: No new facebook post since we last talked  (Read 464 times)
BorisAcusio
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« on: July 02, 2014, 10:14:01 AM »

I broke up with my uBPDex back in december, pretty much no contact since february with a brief semi-recycle back in march. She've just sent her monthly letter, trying to initiate contact with me, despite the strict NC policy from my part. I have no intentions to engage with her but there is something I found interesting. She haven't made any new facebook post since the last time we spoke 4 months ago and she was quite active before, even got her supply from there. Her letters are getting more intimate and desperate, mentioning how she misses me holding her in my arms, the cuddling. It even included some form of begging to get a reply.

Maybe she erased everything from her page, including the new orbiters for a possible recycle?  

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« Reply #1 on: July 02, 2014, 12:23:12 PM »

Maybe she just configurated her FB to don't allow you to see new posts and make you curious about her.

Any friend in common to check this for you?
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« Reply #2 on: July 02, 2014, 12:36:51 PM »

It is possible she is filtering you by sharing her posts with a list that does not include you. My ex does that a lot, I know since she told me she's doing it before I was painted black and she did include me on several posts that were more intimate and had to do with inner stuff she dealt with or with new intimate relationships (boy, that really hurt... .)

Or maybe she got off of facebook.

I did that about a month ago and I was quite active before.

Why do you care?

Does it really matter for your detachment?
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« Reply #3 on: July 02, 2014, 03:08:46 PM »

She is likely just filtering posts so you can't see them. 

It is amazing the ability of these individuals to pique our curiosity when all we want is to be free of them. 
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« Reply #4 on: July 02, 2014, 09:15:08 PM »

Hi Boris,

          My exBPDbf used his FB as a way to communicate biproxy with me in a hostile way. A means of triangulation. when we were in NC due to a breakup if he was not trying to hurt me he would not have a need for FB. He would use direct means of contact, email, text, call…FB wasn't used at all if not for preening, posing and performing. Perhaps because you guys are broken up she is giving you space, calling like you say, and doesn't use FB, or need to manipulate right now? The other's cud be right, when they are working different supply sources they sometimes shut down everything so everyone is separate and compartmentalized. No one meets anyone. They certainly don't want anyone exchanging information, and they also don't want "New supply" sources friending them.…It's really insanity trying to read into the hieroglyphics of social media manipulation and communication tactics. When I realize I've been lost in a zone for hours trying to read the rhythms of exBPDbf computer patterns of thinking he's on or off or watching me, watching him, I wanna shoot myself! I can fall into a worm hole and not come out for hours... Whatta waste of precious time… ugh... Hugs, SMH

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