A new diagnosis and more confusion...

[janey62]

My partner whom I have come to believe may have BPD which was undiagnosed has just been diagnosed by his psychiatrist with Unstable Personality Disorder.  He told him he couldn't really be Bipolar or have BPD because of his extreme reaction to Lithium when he took it for a few days recently.  It made him feel ill.

I've googled Unstable PD and it turns out to be another name for BPD! 

When I went to collect him after the appointment he seemed so relieved to have been told this, though we were both uncertain what it meant.  The P has referred him for some (more) CBT work and has given him a key worker who he will see once a month, which is something I suppose.

I just feel, again, unsupported and a lot let down by the NHS (not for the first time). 

I'm at a loss.  This new stage in our journey has reinforced my partner's belief that he isn't really all that ill, that he can still drink when he likes and that most of our problems are my fault!  He's now not on any medication at all, he stopped taking the anti depressants which were keeping him a little stable and is instead drinking daily, though not an extreme amount at the moment, but it's creeping up.

I'm feeling low myself at the moment.  My father died a few weeks ago and that's left me feeling kind of lost.  My partner hasn't been all that supportive, his dramas seem to blot out any of my needs or feelings.  I have made myself an appointment to have some counselling because if I don't I will fall apart.

I'm so close to being completely swamped.

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[HappyChappy]

janey62 Sorry to hear about your farther. That must be tough right now. I understand how hard it is living with a loved one with BPD. I have 19 years. So it's realy important you take some time for yourself, especialy considering the way you say you feel right now. If you also fall ill, that's no use to your BPD. Beware, the fact everything is blamed on you, is a BPD trate. You might want to discuss success rates with NHD clinitians on any treament your BPD has.


I'm also an NHS user, and feel let down. However they do have support and advise for partners. Call the PALS department of your local NHS to get details and if you experince problems. 

[formflier]

My partner whom I have come to believe may have BPD which was undiagnosed has just been diagnosed by his psychiatrist with Unstable Personality Disorder.  He told him he couldn't really be Bipolar or have BPD because of his extreme reaction to Lithium when he took it for a few days recently.  It made him feel ill.

I've googled Unstable PD and it turns out to be another name for BPD! 

When I went to collect him after the appointment he seemed so relieved to have been told this, though we were both uncertain what it meant.  The P has referred him for some (more) CBT work and has given him a key worker who he will see once a month, which is something I suppose.

I just feel, again, unsupported and a lot let down by the NHS (not for the first time). 

I'm at a loss.  This new stage in our journey has reinforced my partner's belief that he isn't really all that ill, that he can still drink when he likes and that most of our problems are my fault!  He's now not on any medication at all, he stopped taking the anti depressants which were keeping him a little stable and is instead drinking daily, though not an extreme amount at the moment, but it's creeping up.

I'm feeling low myself at the moment.  My father died a few weeks ago and that's left me feeling kind of lost.  My partner hasn't been all that supportive, his dramas seem to blot out any of my needs or feelings.  I have made myself an appointment to have some counselling because if I don't I will fall apart.

I'm so close to being completely swamped.

Is there a way to hurry back to the same guy? Take articles from the internet and ask him the difference between BPD and unstable.

I just googled as well... and it looks same to me