Some hope after break-up

[Pieter2]

Halo All

I just wanted to write a letter to everyone who has a broken heart, who finds it difficult to get up in the morning. For everyone who feels aggrieved. Do you feel lost? Do you regret letting someone do this to you? Do you wonder how this happened and why? For everyone who feels hate and remorse towards the ex or current BPD. This one is for all of you: (I have recovered and am very happy now. It took time, but I am happy)

Dear Sir / Madam / Recovering from a relationship

You are fantastic. Your empathy towards others is a huge plus and your patience is admirable. The fact that you even put up with all the tantrums, rage, lies, manipulation, possible cheating and overall one-sidedness of the relationship is a testament to your character. The toxicity of it all is mind-blowing and for you to defuse it constantly, to be "the bigger man" and to caring, loving and concerned is proof that you are unique and a giving individual.

I am sorry you went through this. I hate that you had to sit night after night and listen to rage, insults and that a wonderful person such as yourself had to be put down, let down and stepped on so many times. Non-one deserves this, least of all you. I'm sorry that you never got that apology that you deserved. But I will give it to you. I am sorry. I am so very sorry. You deserved so much more.

You have learned so much though. You and I both know that you won't be stepped on again. Not by your ex, not by your family, your boss, or anyone ever again. And never, never again will you be stepped on by someone who should be your best friend, who should love you - properly. You will be stronger with time. The fact that you came out of this alive is something to be thankful, but proud of. I am proud of you. Well done! The fact that you are no longer in this relationship tells me that you are strong. Very strong. Stay that way!

You will move on. Moving on though, means more than just in a romantic relationship. You will feel better, you will sing in the car to your favourite tunes again. You will! Trust me. You will laugh with friends again, now that you are again allowed to. You may contact your family now. You can look at other women/guys is a respectful way and not be lambasted for it. You may love others again, romantically or not. You can be yourself. Go find out who that wonderful person is! Stay strong. You'll get there. You were not appreciated, so appreciate yourself. You were torn down, build yourself up now! You were down, kicked, screamed at, abused and left for dead. Are you gone though? No, you're still here because you have a greater purpose than to be made into a nobody who sucks up to abusers. You are way, way better than that! And just immagine what an awesome girl/wife/guy/husband you will get with all these fantastic qualities. He/she will be awesome I am sure! I can't wait myself... .

Lastly, an extract from a song:

"You and I will stand again

Is that your dream? Believe it!

We can start rebuilding, because?

THAT'S WHAT WE DO!

One step before we run

A little faith - And then some!

If we can't find a way, we'll make one! Because?

THAT'S WHAT WE DO!

Enjoy life people, because you can now! Good luck to all. You'll get there, you will... .

[Caramel]

Thank you so much Pieter2!   

That was beautiful!   

And I'm very happy for you!   

[newlifeBPDfree]

Thank you, this was very needed this morning.

[Pieter2]

Such a pleasure newlifeBPDfree and Caramel. I feel I should contribute and spread some hope here as this community helped me so much! Stay on the road. Just one foot in front of the next and you'll make it. Don't give up.

[love2give]

Can't stop crying.

Thank you it is beautiful.

[NorthLight]

Thank you, I think we all need to hear motivational speeches...

To all of us that have been nothing but loving and nice to a person that has crushed our hearts.

And here we are... .after taking care of our BPD, and they crush us, we now take care of each others... You are all heroes!

[amigo]

 I am somehow unconsciously waiting for that apology/ insight from the BPD ex when I know it will never come.

I will read your letter when I am overcome with wanting to contact him for that last talk... .

So good of you to take the time to post this. THANK YOU!

[Pieter2]

A huge pleasure writing this for all of you! Stay strong, stay yourself and become better. Everyday. Every day can be better than the last one. Imagine yourself in a year from now! Excited? I am... .