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blindjoe
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Ex "Tried" Contacting me Again
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August 07, 2014, 01:17:29 PM »
I put "tried" in quotes because last night I received two missed calls from my ex. I hadn't responded to her two previous e-mails over the last few weeks.
The voicemail she left was just noise, music in the background, maybe a concert, I couldn't tell.
Thing is, I know how her phone works, and it's not possible for it to 'butt dial'.
And if it was an accident why would she call once, hang up before she could leave a message, then call again 5 minutes later and let it leave a minute and a half message, meaning she let it go for a little while and then hung up.
Of course it has me reeling with all sorts of thoughts. Stupid.
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willy45
Formerly "johnnyorganic", "rjh45", "SurferDude"
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I know the feeling well... .Just ignore. Random impulses on her part. Doesn't mean a thing. She will probably have forgotten she did it anyways.
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She's fishing for your attention. She's tossing bait out, hoping you're still wrapped around her finger. My ex did the same thing last week. I'd wake up randomly with the text "hi"
Finally I got fed up and said "what the fk don't you understand about don't contact me again"
Which she replied with more fishing for pity, "I just wanted to see how you were I guess... ." which I didn't even respond to, few minutes went by and her mood totally changed and I got "so are you helping me pay off our lease breaking" to which I replied "no, bye" and got about 5 texts after, with some time between them trying to guilt me then finally a "goodbye"
When you take a step back with a rational mind, you can see just how crappy of a human they are, and they will do everything they can simply to satisfy only their need.
Everything your ex is doing, is just fishing. I'd say don't be a fish, don't let her reel you in.
So far I haven't been contacted by her, so my raging reply worked and it makes me feel better, but that's me.
They are weird people, very weird.
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