Hello, marenellie. Welcome to our not-so-little family!
I'm glad you've found your way to this site, as we have many parents of adult children with BPD here, and they share with, learn from and support each other. For many people, just the knowledge that they are not alone in facing the difficulties presented by this terrible disorder is, in itself, a tremendous relief. I see you've already selected the
Parenting Board as your 'home' board, so you're well on your way to finding the support and understanding that is so helpful to our many members.
It's great that one of your twin daughters is seeking help. Sadly many BPD sufferers
never seek or get the treatment they need, so one out of two is a start, at least. Is this daughter seeing a therapist or psychologist? Finding a therapist that she's comfortable with, one familiar with BPD and the various treatments available such as Dialectical Behavioural Therapy (DBT), would be a massive step towards healing for herself and for your family life.
You'll find many resources and much information here to help you support your daughters in effective ways. When someone suffers from BPD, not only are
they unhappy and unhealthy, but often, so is everyone who loves them. This mental illness can severely affect everyone, creating drama and heartbreak, while also piling on the guilt and anxiety. You'll find information here to help you deal with what we call FOG; Fear, Obligation and Guilt. You'll see that there are things that can be done to avoid making things worse and begin to make them better. A great place to start is with this set of resources:
What can a parent do? The senior members on
Parenting will take you under their wing and make you feel right at home here. You'll find a genuine warmth and a real sense of community, and the support of people who genuinely understand your situation - because they've faced or are facing it themselves. You're among friends here, marenellie, so once again, Welcome Aboard!
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