Do BPDs improve with age?

[Beware of Junk Psychology...]

the thing is though what does this tell us about ourselves?

we have a coherent fantasy, sense of self. This sense of self eminates from our unconscious. Then we interact with the outside world as a sort of symbolic ritual of our interaction with our own unconscious. So what did we seek from our interaction with our ex? WHat did we seek with our actions in the world outside of us? WHy do we do these things? How do we identify ourselves through our actions and interactions with the world outside of ourselves?

We try to make sense of our exs I believe because we are trying to makes sense of ourselves.

[Blimblam]

the thing is though what does this tell us about ourselves?

we have a coherent fantasy, sense of self. This sense of self eminates from our unconscious. Then we interact with the outside world as a sort of symbolic ritual of our interaction with our own unconscious. So what did we seek from our interaction with our ex? WHat did we seek with our actions in the world outside of us? WHy do we do these things? How do we identify ourselves through our actions and interactions with the world outside of ourselves?

We try to make sense of our exs I believe because we are trying to makes sense of ourselves.

[Hope0807]

Thanks for all of your great comments, as usual!  I'm still learning/trying to figure out how to "quote" more than one of your comments.  I agree with the comment that they may not REALLY improve with age, but rather get better at being BPD and affected the non-BPDs more/worse.  Ugh!  Thank god I'm out! 

Elessar, we met at age 33 so I don't know what he really like before 30.  Most who knew him were rather subdued in expressing that he was "difficult" in the past (in hindsight they all KNEW he was a mess but didn't know how MUCH of a mess) and our 7 years together was insane and I honestly cannot imagine him "improving" as he ages (especially with the drugs added in there) so who knows.  I pray for the days I wake up and no longer spend my times wondering ANYTHING about him and just take care of me. 

Thank you ALL for the long, long overdue PEACE this forum affords me at this healing time.  Dunno what I'd do without bpdfamily!    

[MrFox]

I met my exBPDgf when she was 29.  It was about 8 months after she had walked out of a 4 year relationship with her now ex-husband, leaving him and their 3 year-old daughter so she could play boudoir photographer and punk rock pin-up girl.  She is now 34 and I can say that she really has only gotten worse.  Last I heard she was now to sick (in the time I have known her she has had a number of chronic maladies such as MS that medical science cannot verify) to work and is living off of her new husband (married 3 months after we split).  This does not seem like progress to me.

My BPDmother is nearly 60.  My stepfather has provided her with an amazing life.  He works hard to give her a big home, she doesn't have to work, can buy pretty much whatever she wants, and can travel on a whim.  She has become increasingly bitter, hostile, and miserable.  Watching her downward spiral over the past few years tells me that, without treatment, no pwBPD do not get better.  They change tactics, they learn new tricks.  They do not get better.  This is only my opinion.

[Mr Hollande]

I've mentioned before that my first BPD ex is now a vicar. She actually works for one of God's branches here on earth and I'm sure both he and his son wishes for a way to terminate her contract. I hear the Holy Ghost has been off with stress on more than one occasion.