a strange kind of contact

[letmeout]

My son said his father (my exBPDh) put a lot of boxes of (what he said was my stuff)  out by my storage units. It has been two years so I wondered what on earth he could still have that was mine that he was willing to give up.

Well, most of it was garbage, with shards of broken glass intermingled with old Christmas decorations. It took me several trips hauling that stuff to the dumpster.

I think he was just cleaning out his basement because some of this stuff I had never even seen before. I have maintained complete no contact; maybe this was the only way he could think of to get my attention.

[enlighten me]

Yes it is strange. The fact that he made the effort to take it to your storage rather than just dump it makes it seem to me like he was reaching out to you for a reaction.

My exgf does all sorts of weird stuff so nothing would surprise me. Im LC as we have a son together who is too young for me to communicate to directly. We use facebook for communication as she rarely emails and I get to see his pictures when she posts them. The amount of odd posts and messages I get I find quite amusing. I can even predict to the day when she will do something. I don't think we will ever figure out what they are truly thinking.

[tired-of-it-all]

There are several messages in this action:

He is certainly reaching out, but the communication is meant to punish.  He created work for you.  You had to clean up his mess.  He is also dumping on you.  He dumped his garbage on you.  He dumped it on your storage area which is an area of your life that has helped tidy up your life.  It is a way to bring chaos to your sanity.

Throw the ___ away and try to forget about it.  Treat it like a random person pitched some trash near your storage unit.  That is all that has happened.  Don't let it occupy space in your head.  It doesn't affect you unless you let it.

[letmeout]

I must agree with you, tired-of-it-all. He punished me enough by being abusive during our marriage, and then robbing me blind. Maybe this was his last hurrah.