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Author Topic: Retaliation threaths from BPDex  (Read 412 times)
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What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Broken up
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« on: September 03, 2014, 10:11:34 AM »

Hi everyone,

As posted in another thread I broke NC last night and responded to a message my dBPDexf sent me. I was nice and understanding, but I am not interested in recycling. Ofcourse he didnt get what he wanted and threw a tantrum a 5 year old would be jealous at!

I didnt get really upset over it, it didnt affect me like it would use to. Suprisingly enough after like 30 minutes I started laughing about the whole ridiculouness of it... .  Smiling (click to insert in post)

This morning I opened my computer and it seems like he managed to sent me a couple of more messages within the time frame I blocked him.

A lot of bla bla bla Im so happy with the replacement i cheated on you with, she says hi btw, you were the problem, Bla bla... .I can deal with that... .WHATEVER!

The thing that bothered me was a suggested threat (not a direct one... .) to put a "privat" video online... .Its not a big thing, its a stripnumber I did, not full nudity, but it could still be a problem. If he posts that with my name, adress, number, I could get some dificulties (jobs, preverts, harrasment... .) He knows I was really worried when I did this. It was the first time I had ever done such a thing and was uncomfortable. But since he lived across the ocean, i thought it would be nice and got out of my comfort zone... .STUPID!

In the rs he said he'd never do such a thing, but now he knows there is no way im gonna recycle AGAIN and he has nothing to loose... .Im not sure if he will respect the boundary... .

It worries me, he knows when he does it he'll get a reaction and he's dying for it... .

Any of you have experience with revenge and retaliation by your exBPD?
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« Reply #1 on: September 03, 2014, 10:37:24 AM »

If he posts that with my name, adress, number, I could get some dificulties (jobs, preverts, harrasment... .) He knows I was really worried when I did this. It was the first time I had ever done such a thing and was uncomfortable. But since he lived across the ocean, i thought it would be nice and got out of my comfort zone... .STUPID!

Any of you have experience with revenge and retaliation by your exBPD?

Many members have experience with "threats" -- as a way to "control" or incite a reaction.  Some members have even had exes follow through with threats, again -- as a way to control or incite.   

I am not sure what legal rights exist if such video was posted.  You could check into that... .such as, what rights you have for removal and prosecution, etc.

That said, cutting contact completely is often the remedy.   No more supply.   And, often exes bang head against wall for a while and then find other supply.

You might want to peruse this threat on Extinction Bursts, that is, what happens when we "remove our reinforcement in an attempt to stop the behavior":  https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=85479.0

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