Does anyone know of their BPDex viewing these sites/boards?

[Harlygirl]

They (pwBPD) seem to know much of the jargon we speak of here... .which may help them "talk the talk" instead of "walking the walk", regardless of therapy... .Is it possible they view these same boards?

[StayOrLeave15]

My take is that most don't unless their SO tells them they are BPD or they see their SO on the boards or in their browsing history. 

I *ALWAYS* use the Private Browsing feature when on here (even though we are broken up NC 3 weeks) and never mentioned to my BPDxgf that I was on any kind of online support boards.  I also hid the books that I bought on the disorder. 

The close call came when we were out together and I pulled out my phone to show her something.  I had just been on the boards before meeting up with her so it opened right up.  I had to pull my phone away and quickly hide it.  This would usually make her very suspicious but her birthday was approaching and I told her that I was looking at her gift and didn't want to ruin it. 

Keep in mind there are soo many people and stories on here that it would be difficult for anyone to find their SO's postings by just looking around.  Even so, I changed a few trivial details in my postings just in case, although when her behavior became really crazy she would probably know it's her. 

Also, most pwBPD don't know they have or won't acknowledge their disorder, so it is unlikely many are on here.  Those that do throw around the jargon are likely "seasoned veterans" who have been through many failed r/s and have heard the words "BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER" many times.