Same here, she would come up with an imaginary problem and then ask the opinion of her enablers. I'm guessing this way if the decision was wrong she could lay blame elsewhere.
I kid you not, she once phoned her mum from the supermarket to ask if she should buy "soft" or "extra soft" butter. She hated shopping with a passion. Towards the end she wanted to feel all grown up and got me to show her how to cook risotto. She actually went to the store all by herself and then called me because there was a problem, pumpkin was on the list and there were three different types of pumpkin for sale. After I told her which one to get I thought that was the end of the problem, but noo, some of the pumpkins were light orange and some were dark so she called me back to ask which one to buy. It was insane!
When it came to any work decisions, really big decisions like whether she should correct her students work, (sarcasm) she would call me and talk about it for half an hour and then her mum and possibly even her dad would get a phone call.
It was so pitiful to see a 31 year old woman behave like this, makes sense now that I realise she had the emotional maturity of a 5 year old.
My exgf used to get really annoyed if I would leave decisions up to her.
i.e. "what do you fancy for dinner" me "Anything Im easy"
or
What do you fancy doing today?
I suddenly realised that it wasn't just me she left decisions to it. She would research for hours anything that she wanted to buy such as a washing machine or vacuum cleaner. I realise this is sound thinking before buying anything but she would obsess over researching it and use several different sites.
I came to the conclusion that she did this so she couldn't be blamed if things went wrong.
Anyone else have this?
