Is she cyber-stalking me?

[Vatz]

Okay, the last few days have been sort of weird.

I get home after work, I'm tired. I turn on my PC, and figure I'd play a game, catch up with some online friends. I log in, and everything is gone. I mean, my friend list is intact but all my "stuff" is gone and characters have been DELETED. I didn't particularly care, and wasn't upset about the stuff. It's just pixels anyway. No, what really bugged me was there was this alarm in my head. When I found everything gone I was like "This is her handiwork." She may have put someone up to this. I contacted the admins and told them I think I've been hacked so now the support staff is investigating what happened and how everything just disappeared.

The next thing is this meetup site that I'm on. Last night apparently at midnight I got a message. It was from some pretty girl, who left her cell phone. Told me to text her. First of all, NO. That doesn't happen.

I never met her, and she's too pretty to be bothering with me. Plus, she left her phone number while sending me a message without even bothering to talk to me. This is highly suspect.

Am I being paranoid? She can't hack, and doesn't really know much about computers. But she easily could have convinced someone to do it for her. Still though, what do you guys think? Am I paranoid and this is probably the result of some random hacker jagoff, or is this her at work?

[enlighten me]

It ouldnt surprise me. Someone tried accessing my email account. I was alerted and it gives the area where you tried to log in from. Strangely enough its where my ex wife now lives.

I had changed all my passwords to something that she would never guess. Was your password something your ex might have figured out just by knowing you?

As for the girl thing it could be her trying to see if your hooking up with other women. Go to a pay phone somewhere away from where you live and call the number. If she answers or if its a dead number then you will know its her. You never know though it could just be a pretty girl that's actually interested in you 

[Recooperating]

It could very well be! There are stories about these kind of things and my dBPDex did some things like this too. He made numerous "false" FB accounts and tried to befriend me. (I never befriend a person I dont know) he tried to hack into my email, i change the password every other week just in case.

Now he finds it enjoyable to sent me emails from a dating site he is on. (I am not on this dating site, but apparently he can message from there to an emailadress of his choice) Who does that?

If it is her or not, just make sure you protect yourself. Check your computer on spyware too. I have heared there are some programs that they can install and they run in the background and disclose all passwords and privat information on your computer.

Good luck Vatz! Hope you find out what happened and truely hope its not her!

[Vatz]

Okay, so I tried to get into FB. They told me someone tried to log in from Japan.

Strangely enough, two candidates that might be related to this.

Met a half-Japanese girl recently.

My BPDEx's best friend is all about Jap culture, and has been studying the language for god-knows how long. She could have either moved there, or studying abroad there. Maybe BPDEx asked her to do some legwork.

Besides that it could just be some Nippon D-bag looking to rob me. Jokes on him, though. I'm poor as ___.

[Loveofhislife]

My life these days feels like I'm watching "Catch Me If You Can," remember that movie with Tom Hanks and Leonardo DiCaprio who played a small time con artist who became big time and could evade the FBI?  That's how my exbfBPD thinks of himself.  I have spent weeks trying to remember every user id and password to e-mail, credit accounts, etc.  After all, he was just trying to HELP me get everything organized and automated! Beware Greeks bearing gifts.  I now need to change my router WEP, my cell phone passwords, my Apple ID; and I'm hiring someone to come out and check my computer from one end to the other.  I'm calling servers to my e-mail clients.  YES--this guy is more than well equipped to hack into anything and everything.  And why would he waste his time when he has painted me black and continues into his sixth week of ST?  Because it makes him feel IN CONTROL... .any other reasons?  Probably extortion and black mail, if I had to guess.  It's not just the locks we have to change, guys:  it's everything.  For them, it's all about control, whether we are painted black or white!

[Skip]

Wouldn't it be easier to "egg" your car, Bieber style?  

These all sound like everyday Internet noise - a lot of us get this exact stuff.

When ex's stalk, they hack the email or phone messages or raid your mailbox or drive by at 3 AM to see if you're home. 

It's always good to do a password rehab when a relationships end. 

Detachment leads to freedom.   We need to be careful not to manufacture attachment.  We all do.

[Vatz]

When ex's stalk, they hack the email or phone messages or raid your mailbox or drive by at 3 AM to see if you're home.

That right there is even scarier.

Anyway, you're probably right about it being just regular, ever day sort of BS. It's sort of never happened to me before. Guess I'm just being paranoid.

[enlighten me]

Just because your paranoid it doesn't mean their not out to get you 

[vre]

Apologies in advance for maybe raising your worry level.

If she's at all tech savvy and has had physical access to your computer or smart phone, she could've installed spyware. Some of those programs log key strokes, so even if you changed passwords, if you used a compromised device to do so, the change would get captured in the log it was keeping.

If she's never had access to your devices, it's very unlikely that this would apply however.

[Vatz]

Apologies in advance for maybe raising your worry level.

If she's at all tech savvy and has had physical access to your computer or smart phone, she could've installed spyware. Some of those programs log key strokes, so even if you changed passwords, if you used a compromised device to do so, the change would get captured in the log it was keeping.

If she's never had access to your devices, it's very unlikely that this would apply however.

After we broke up, I don't think she once touched my PC. Though it's possible, it's unlikely she'd have installed the spyware. It's not that she's incapable of doing it, but I don't think the idea would have crossed her mind. I could be wrong. I do have an antivirus that's fairly reliable, still though. Guess it wouldn't hurt to take it to a pro.

More and more hassles piling up.

[hurting300]

Buddy, last week I get an email from Facebook saying "sorry your having trouble logging in" Yeah they stalk, even if they dump you.

[Skip]

Buddy, last week I get an email from Facebook saying "sorry your having trouble logging in" Yeah they stalk, even if they dump you.

Is it different when we stalk?

[hurting300]

Nope sure isn't.

[Vatz]

Okay, so I used antivirus and so far no other unauthorized log-ins to anything else. In all likelihood, the hacks weren't her. It was some random hack.

But something strange happened.

I got yet another message from the meetup site, it was from someone who was in my single's group, but we never met. I checked her profile, and she only created the profile on the day she sent me a message. But it wasn't empty. Lots of groups joined (mostly dating/singles stuff,) it didn't look like a shell. A tiny alarm went off about the thing with it being made the same day I was messaged.

So after responding with a "Oh yeah, I'm great how're you" sort of thing, she's like "I'm good" and leaves a number and basically tells me to text her if I want to chat as for some reason she doesn't get on the meetup site much. Again, fishy. Then I saw that her message was sent at almost 5AM. I'm thinking who sends messages at 5 AM? Who gets up that early, or stays up that late, and goes "Oh yeah, I'm gonna check my messages. Oh and reply to that guy there."

I'll take enlighten me's advice and do the payphone thing. I'm suspicious of messages sent TO me from women, as it makes no sense. Especially two pretty women within the span of a week? Something is REALLY strange. I mean, the number she gave out was different than the last one, but that could be irrelevant.

It's probably some hacker trying to get personal info by posing as women or SOMETHING, either that or my life is taking a turn for the bizarre. Either way, feels like I'm losing my mind here.

[hurting300]

She more than likely has tried to watch you. Mine deactivated her Facebook and changed her phone number, but yet she drives out of her way to pass my house? Hello... .Disordered thinking anyone? These people do not know what they are doing half the time. Yes I will admit I have driven past my ex girlfriends house and tried looking for her but my god she ran away with our kid! That's not stalking. Big difference.

[Vatz]

Luckily I have no idea where she is. So that leaves me unable to stalk her. But damnit, I'm a little disgusted by the possibility that it's her doing this. I still can't quite confirm it's her, but from what you're saying and based on other things, it probably is. This makes sense. I can't fathom creating fake profiles, and all that just to stalk someone, even someone I'm still in a relationship with and suspicious of them.

This is bull___!

[enlighten me]

Had a strange thing happen to me today. I had a friends request on facebook. I went to see who it was and they disappeared. I searched for the name and there was no match. Now I still have my exgf on their so I doubt it was her and my ex wife is blocked but can access my page as she has my sons facebook password.

Just find it strange that someone would go to the trouble of friends requesting me then deleting their account.

[hurting300]

That happened to me also with the fake profiles then disappearing. Listen guys, they are COWARDS ok? They would more than likely stalk from distance. Rather than in your face. A sociopath would just walk right up to the door...