How do they do it?

[Deeno02]

How fo they mentally rape you, end the relationship and start going out with another dude the day after? Im not tracking and im so crushed.

[PhoenixBlack]

Hang in there mate you are not alone. It will get better with time.

[tim_tom]

Think of it like this, the reason they can do this is the same reason why you should be glad they did it

[bunnysc]

Thats true ^, but thinking how our emotions and feelings where trashed like hell is hard to understand or accept, I mean very hard. For me the hardest part of all is just thinking how she can go and have sex with any random person, cause she was my girl my friend and the girl that loved me... .But oh well, all that was just a fantasy and a ''fake living''...

Just having a hard day man... .

Deeno02 be strong hang in there mate, reading helps me a lot. I know that feeling we all know it. Go little by little.

[fred6]

Thats true ^, but thinking how our emotions and feelings where trashed like hell is hard to understand or accept, I mean very hard. For me the hardest part of all is just thinking how she can go and have sex with any random person, cause she was my girl my friend and the girl that loved me... .But oh well, all that was just a fantasy and a ''fake living''...

Yes indeed, it's like we're disposable. Discarded like a used Kleenex, and another one is pulled from the box at random.

[bunnysc]

Yes indeed, it's like we're disposable. Discarded like a used Kleenex, and another one is pulled from the box at random.

Exactly

[NorthLight]

I have no idea why or how they do it so i have no answers for you - But i can relate so much to the thread! Have had the exact same thought and pain since i found out she was allrdy in new serious rs right after dumping me.

NC + read + think of how miserable she must feel inside and the pain will slowly get easier day by day, good luck bro

[Red Sky]

Ouch. Have a virtual hug.

Sounds like the question most people here have asked themselves. I agree with NorthLight though - it's got to be worse to be the person who can do that than to be the person who gets left in the lurch. At least you can distance yourself from it from here.

[Vatz]

I don't know Deen0, it just sucks. I'd buy ya a beer if I could.

Anyway, yeah its pretty bad. Honestly, the best thing is to let yourself hurt, nurse your pain and get back out there. Its a disorder. You're confused because it makes no sense to your (probably) sane mind,so look at the chaos for what it is. But you're out of it.

Your house got destroyed by an earthquake, you could ask the ground why it did this, but you'll either hear nothing or the elder gods grumbling in a language you can't understand. Either way, you gotta find shelter because you're now without a home. Get some support, heal and build a new "home."

Is what it is. 

[Caredverymuch]

How fo they mentally rape you, end the relationship and start going out with another dude the day after? Im not tracking and im so crushed.

Bc they are very ill. That's all you need to tell yourself. You did nothing to deserve this and could not change the outcome.

I'm so sorry you are crushed. We all have been. Its horrendous what they do.

Sending