It makes you feel a whole lot better, and see words for what they are, words without any real meaning unless you give them meaning.
As you get stronger it is like throwing pebbles at a wall. A tiring and futile excercise
I wish I could do that... .
What is stopping you?
But what do you do with the intention behind the words?
You realize that
YOU are the one putting that intention there. It's your fear talking. Trying to figure out what a pwBPD "means" when they say things... .or taking it literally... .is not a good plan. Remember... it's the disorder coming through... .not them. If you give "intention" or "meaning" to their words... .you are handing over power to them... .don't do that!
The wish to hurt us, the distrust, the accusations... .and all the consequences too, such as people turning their backs to us because of all the terrible things they told them for example.
Again... don't try to figure out what they "wish" to do. It most likely is not what it seems. If people turn their backs on you based on incorrect info... .then that generally says something about their character... .you may be better off anyway. Again... .this is an area to focus on "
not taking it personally"
I realize it is much harder said than done... .but very important.