... .and this is my second BPD encounter ,
because of the first I was able to detect some red lights and slowly abandon her, just use the object constanticy ... .if not on they radar , it's getting harder for them to obtain a reference of you.
She did make some frantic efforts to charm me in, she obtained a killer body and she was cabable of doing absolutely all the sexual stuff you can imagine to keep you close... .but she got no idea what intimazy even resembles ... .yes it takes some will power to it
the new person is positive , I feel reinforced just by being near her , the lack of manipulation is a reminder that a person add so much more to your life than manipulative sexuality. My ex needed a relationship , but she did not need the person behind , I was a tool for being manipulated, so she could have rs, her normalcy prop. I was always treathed as an option. Look world, I have "in a rs status on facebook", and a ring on my finger, I am normal!
She even tried to triangulate me during the honeymoon phase with her new bf, 'i am still a backup in her mentality, it is easier to suck me in , than to prepeare a new object.
My new potential partner is not a sex object , or do not have her porn star qualities, and thank for that, she is a real person that have real needs, she craves real needs back from me , and do not live in a fantasy sick world, that helps me back to the reality , to the fact I have to work with myself, deal with the real me.