Broke NC, I answered.

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

For those who know my story, I am doing much better, not really thinking about the r/s anymore and I am in the introspection part now which is pretty hard at times, having to deal with issues buried inside your core for decades is a hard thing to do but I wont back off this time. My ex sent me a text about some pet, wanting a phone number to give away some dog my replacement give to her (probably trying to adjust before painting him black like she did to me). Then the question  popped: whats going on with (for this post i will call her Molly). This is an awesome women she used to call her best friend, when the r/s ended, Molly and i kept talking and we became friend, my goal wasnt to make a beast out of my ex, but i did give Molly some insight of BPD behavior. Molly, to my ex was the back up plan, the character that is always nice and friendly and there when you need her but never see again in other scenes. I know my ex hates this but Molly and i friendship isn't about her, its about 2 normal person enjoying each others company. So to her text asking about whats going on with Molly, i answered: She is a good gal and we're friends.

I feel ok with answering, she is still with that loser in a ___hole town. Should I have just ignored my ex or was I right to answer?

[Zpinal]

For those who know my story, I am doing much better, not really thinking about the r/s anymore and I am in the introspection part now which is pretty hard at times, having to deal with issues buried inside your core for decades is a hard thing to do but I wont back off this time. My ex sent me a text about some pet, wanting a phone number to give away some dog my replacement give to her (probably trying to adjust before painting him black like she did to me). Then the question  popped: whats going on with (for this post i will call her Molly). This is an awesome women she used to call her best friend, when the r/s ended, Molly and i kept talking and we became friend, my goal wasnt to make a beast out of my ex, but i did give Molly some insight of BPD behavior. Molly, to my ex was the back up plan, the character that is always nice and friendly and there when you need her but never see again in other scenes. I know my ex hates this but Molly and i friendship isn't about her, its about 2 normal person enjoying each others company. So to her text asking about whats going on with Molly, i answered: She is a good gal and we're friends.

I feel ok with answering, she is still with that loser in a ___hole town. Should I have just ignored my ex or was I right to answer?

[Blimblam]

For those who know my story, I am doing much better, not really thinking about the r/s anymore and I am in the introspection part now which is pretty hard at times, having to deal with issues buried inside your core for decades is a hard thing to do but I wont back off this time. My ex sent me a text about some pet, wanting a phone number to give away some dog my replacement give to her (probably trying to adjust before painting him black like she did to me). Then the question  popped: whats going on with (for this post i will call her Molly). This is an awesome women she used to call her best friend, when the r/s ended, Molly and i kept talking and we became friend, my goal wasnt to make a beast out of my ex, but i did give Molly some insight of BPD behavior. Molly, to my ex was the back up plan, the character that is always nice and friendly and there when you need her but never see again in other scenes. I know my ex hates this but Molly and i friendship isn't about her, its about 2 normal person enjoying each others company. So to her text asking about whats going on with Molly, i answered: She is a good gal and we're friends.

I feel ok with answering, she is still with that loser in a ___hole town. Should I have just ignored my ex or was I right to answer?

It's not right or wrong it's just what happened. How do you fel about it?

It seems like she is curious as if my ex and me broke up and she said stuff to my bestie and they kept in touch and I lost both of them I would be upset.

Each time with a BPD ex of mine after it ended one of her gfs would get buddy buddy with me. Each time her gf would have fd me. I didn't do it but that's me are you sure your aware of what else is there besides the friendship? 

[Infern0]

Kind of odd because in my first BPD relationship her best friend turned on her and supported me when I got devalued. "She's done this before and I'm sick of her hurting people"

I made a friend for life there,  she was a similar nice person just being downtrodden and used by my BPD.

Second BPD girl doesn't have any friends so there wasn't any one to turn on her.

[Zpinal]

Kind of odd because in my first BPD relationship her best friend turned on her and supported me when I got devalued. "She's done this before and I'm sick of her hurting people"

I made a friend for life there,  she was a similar nice person just being downtrodden and used by my BPD.

Second BPD girl doesn't have any friends so there wasn't any one to turn on her.

Thats pretty much what happened with my BPD. That friend told me she is sick of being used, that everytime she gets a guy its like she falls off the Earth and have little to no contact with her. I have always been careful about what i say, trying not to bash my ex, she is ill. Its nothing personal BUT being dumped for someone else is kinda hard to not take it personal. In the end she will keep cycling into her misery while I will emerge out of this ordeal a better man (I hope).

[Zpinal]

hmmm My exBPD just blocked me on FB. I guess she did me a favor, I'll take it this way.

[Aussie0zborn]

You should have blocked her already. What's wrong with you, man? No contact is the only way to go. Now start blocking her every which way you can.

You can always unblock her later if you crumble and cave in but for now, think about protecting yourself so you don't feel what you just felt when you saw she blocked you on FB. Good luck.