Would they ever come back for any reason or they block you forever ?

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

 The more I read the more I feel better and start dealing with her emails in a different way , I use to bombard her with lengthy emails that probably got deleted , I notice she respond only if accuse her of using me and now using  a couple of her gay male friends finding shelter or as many states here A "replacement" when she got low on money she started manipulating me with unusual soft texts confessed about taking things from me without my knowledge when she was in a survival mode and more suggesting books for me to read so I can go on with my life .asked her if she is seeing someone she said no it could be a lie because she was asking for money ,at that time I did not get to know what I know now so I did not help her , I thought why should I do that after the ugly treatment she put me through .

For a while she wasn't responding till the week she was sick , all of the sudden she misses the dog , she email one and  respond to mine 24 hours latter .

FOR A CHANGE I do not think her tactics  no longer working on me ,I finally got tougher and respond with one or two words .and limit my contact for once or twice a day .

NOW if you ask me she out of the blue she calls and want to come back I will talk with her about what I think we should do next (find a treatment ) not now anyways .and I will drive over night and get her back !

Strange ha ? Yes very after all what I had learned since  I joined this site .

I know everyone's case is different but very similar. what is the chance of succeeding ?

Also if anyone could help me why is she being emailing me when she said several weeks ago NO MORE CONTACT WHATSOEVER .

Is she perhaps having difficulty meeting her bills, she doesn't pay rent and want to use me again or is she thinking of me and the secure life she had , if someone could explain I will be very grateful cause the heart is still calling her name , do they ever come back for that security ? I know now that they can't love they use perhaps I am wrong ?

Someone help me please I am confused !

[guy4caligirl]

 The more I read the more I feel better and start dealing with her emails in a different way , I use to bombard her with lengthy emails that probably got deleted , I notice she respond only if accuse her of using me and now using  a couple of her gay male friends finding shelter or as many states here A "replacement" when she got low on money she started manipulating me with unusual soft texts confessed about taking things from me without my knowledge when she was in a survival mode and more suggesting books for me to read so I can go on with my life .asked her if she is seeing someone she said no it could be a lie because she was asking for money ,at that time I did not get to know what I know now so I did not help her , I thought why should I do that after the ugly treatment she put me through .

For a while she wasn't responding till the week she was sick , all of the sudden she misses the dog , she email one and  respond to mine 24 hours latter .

FOR A CHANGE I do not think her tactics  no longer working on me ,I finally got tougher and respond with one or two words .and limit my contact for once or twice a day .

NOW if you ask me she out of the blue she calls and want to come back I will talk with her about what I think we should do next (find a treatment ) not now anyways .and I will drive over night and get her back !

Strange ha ? Yes very after all what I had learned since  I joined this site .

I know everyone's case is different but very similar. what is the chance of succeeding ?

Also if anyone could help me why is she being emailing me when she said several weeks ago NO MORE CONTACT WHATSOEVER .

Is she perhaps having difficulty meeting her bills, she doesn't pay rent and want to use me again or is she thinking of me and the secure life she had , if someone could explain I will be very grateful cause the heart is still calling her name , do they ever come back for that security ? I know now that they can't love they use perhaps I am wrong ?

Someone help me please I am confused !

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  guy4caligirl

It seems a vast majority do keep old bf/gfs on the back burner to contact every once in a while whether it is to see if any interest is still there or to recycle.

How a Borderline Relationship Evolves https://bpdfamily.com/content/how-borderline-relationship-evolves

Any chance of a relationship succeeding?  Hard to say--if she if fully committed to getting treatment long term (think years) the answer is maybe. 

[Aussie0zborn]

Sounds like she needs you for something - as you suggest, probably to pay her bills. There are many needy people out there, maybe you can start paying their bills too? At least they will appreciate it and not treat you bad.

Sometimes when we're worn down we don't think highly enough of ourselves to say, "I don't need this sh!t" and remove ourselves from the situation. You are smart enough to have found this website and forum. Your searched it out for a reason. You've now got the information and it's generally saying NO CONTACT in these situations, yet you allow her to tell you she stole from you when she was in "survival mode". In other words, she wouldn't normally have stolen form you but there was a mitigating factor - it wasn't her fault. It's not OK to steal from people.

You "responded tougher with one or two word answers" but you're still talking to her. Rather than asking about her motives (which are not very different to what your read in these forums) why not ask yourself about your motives? Aren't you too good to be treated like sh!t?  Why do you allow this? What's wrong with you? Where's your self respect?

You're asking the right questions so you are not too far gone. Analyse yourself first before you get any deeper into a relationship with a pwBPD. Maybe then you can avoid the grief that comes with it because it doesn't sound like you're totally out of this relationship yet. Good luck.