I have 3 children, the youngest (24) we suspect has BPD. I have "managed" this daughter her whole life, both to help her and to keep the environment as peaceful as possible. I need to stop being so in control and hand back to her the responsibility for her life. After reading about BPD, we now understand her and can have more compassion. We are very new at all this and are taking bay steps forward in our efforts to help her and in being able to have a life of our own, too.
Hi Sunnyme1
I join Northerngirl in saying

I'm sorry to learn of your struggles with your daughter. Parenting is not easy, no matter, and BPD can make this more challenging to be sure. This site is a wonderful place of support as so many fellow parents of children with the disorder are here for you
Please post more when you are able. We are so glad you are here!
CVM