alternative facebook account

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I am tempted to email an alternativr account i think

he is using to fb stalk me.

It keeps popping up in my suggested friends list.

mostly bc i want to know if it is him. also because i miss him.

i havent even seen his face looked him up or spoken to him in 16 days.

encouragment please?

[Hurtbeyondrepair27]

I am tempted to email an alternativr account i think

he is using to fb stalk me.

It keeps popping up in my suggested friends list.

mostly bc i want to know if it is him. also because i miss him.

i havent even seen his face looked him up or spoken to him in 16 days.

encouragment please?

[Hurtbeyondrepair27]

Really needing support here... .the most tempted iv been.

[Algae]

I am tempted to email an alternativr account i think

he is using to fb stalk me.

It keeps popping up in my suggested friends list.

mostly bc i want to know if it is him. also because i miss him.

i havent even seen his face looked him up or spoken to him in 16 days.

encouragment please?

If you think he's stalking you on FB, heres what you do... .

Make it to where only your FRIENDS can see what you post, and see who your friends are.  You can leave other stuff public if you wish but make the things that would drive him crazy, private.  If they try to add you after that than it's probably a stalker account.  Or get a friend to add them and see.

If they have less than like 50 friends... then its a fake most likely.

Fake accounts can also be checked, by saving the profile pictures or other pictures... and checking them with Google image search.  It checks to see if those pics were found on the internet somewhere.

But again... for your health and sanity... I think the best thing would be to make it so that only your FRIENDS can see your account stuff and posts. 

[fromheeltoheal]

Since you're on the leaving board I'm assuming you have mixed emotions, as we all do/did.  One thing that helped me was to make a list of all of the unacceptable crap I put up with when I was in it, and read it at times like this.  And it got longer as my memory got clearer.  It didn't take too many times of reading it to shift my focus and strengthen my resolve, and not contacting her was absolutely the right thing to do.

So.  What were three things that went down that would have been completely unacceptable if you weren't enmeshed at the time?

[Rifka]

Really needing support here... .the most tempted iv been.

You know this can only turn out bad for you! Not knowing things in this type of situation works best in keeping nc and moving forward.

Just delete any unknown names and try not to obsess about it.

You can do this!

[Turkish]

16 days isn't a lot of time, HBR. You still miss him, but are conflicted, trying to detach. It is entirely possible that it could be him. If you check, how do you think you will feel? Do you think it will be helpful, or cause you more pain?

[peiper]

Been there in fact I got one today ,same as the rest, New profile, no friends, no posts on their page, female. The deal that I had female friends on my page is what bugged her. I never talk to them just exchange political views. I've received around a dozen of these since she moved out, before that Id never had any.

[myself]

It sounds like playing a game with someone.

If you two can communicate better than this, do that.

Otherwise you're saying your next move could be to ask,

"fb789, are you really fb456?" Hoping you get the truth. Then what?

If it's him, he's taking the long way around with a different mask on.

Follow through with your best reasons to contact, or not to contact.

[Hurtbeyondrepair27]

Thank you guys so much... .my profile is private

but he always looks anyway to see new profile pics ect... .

three things he has done that are unacceptable.

1. possible child porn addiction ( he talked his way out of it)

2. telling a huge secret that caused a lot of problems

3. telling his mom i got his addicted to drugs.

i def dont want to even think of these things bc they make me sick

to my stomach

[Recooperating]

Stay NC hurtbeyond! Ignore everything! Dont befriend anyone you dont know! Dont make contact! Dont give him the pleasure in knowing you still care for him and long for him!

Stay strong! You can do it! The cravings will pass, all it takes is time... .Dreadfull time... .But you will heal!

[camuse]

1. possible child porn addiction

[fromheeltoheal]

three things he has done that are unacceptable.

1. possible child porn addiction ( he talked his way out of it)

2. telling a huge secret that caused a lot of problems

3. telling his mom i got his addicted to drugs.

i def dont want to even think of these things bc they make me sick

to my stomach

And you can use those things.  The way to stop missing him is to associate pain to the thought of him, and focusing on the unacceptable behaviors will help with that.  We have conflicting feelings towards our exes when the relationship ends, we still have an urge to be with them even though if we think about it objectively there are a lot of unacceptable parts we accepted when we were in it.  It's crazymaking, as I'm sure you know, but consciously focusing on the negative will help you detach.  And one day you won't care.  Take care of you!

[Hurtbeyondrepair27]

Thank you guys so much for the support. im going to post my whole story soon. yes i said child porn. must stay away from him. he is not at all who i thought he was.

[hurting300]

Guys i have two Facebook accounts... still friends with my ex that disappeared on one of them. She finally reactivated her Facebook and I stalked it. Still has the love posts about me on there .