Strategies to deal with her sobbing all night

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I have recently told my wife I am considering divorce.  She has agreed to enter counseling with me.  She says she is having a very big problem resolving the thought that I want to try and work on the relationship with the thought that I still am considering leaving as a viable option if things don't work out.

At times she feels all alone and abandoned, and she is crying a lot.  I try to just hold her and tell her that I love her and that she has many friends and family that care about her.  I'm not really sure what else I can do.  I think I am doing an ok job of being detached about it, but hopefully not too cold and uncaring.  I also feel that I need to set some sort of boundary for how much I try to console her as it interferes with my sleep and my free time.

Any input people have about this would be greatly appreciated, thanks.

[adventurer]

I have recently told my wife I am considering divorce.  She has agreed to enter counseling with me.  She says she is having a very big problem resolving the thought that I want to try and work on the relationship with the thought that I still am considering leaving as a viable option if things don't work out.

At times she feels all alone and abandoned, and she is crying a lot.  I try to just hold her and tell her that I love her and that she has many friends and family that care about her.  I'm not really sure what else I can do.  I think I am doing an ok job of being detached about it, but hopefully not too cold and uncaring.  I also feel that I need to set some sort of boundary for how much I try to console her as it interferes with my sleep and my free time.

Any input people have about this would be greatly appreciated, thanks.

[Fatherwith2girls]

I'm 2 months into a similar situation. She cries A LOT and I do feel for her, but I don't want to show her I feel her pain. If she see's that she isn't going to try to fix her behavior and we'll be back where we were 2 months ago in no time. Currently I have let my wife have her emotional outbursts and tell her exactly why I am not happy. She is owning responsibility for the emotional and verbal abuse which is helpful to me because I think an adult should be able to admit when they are causing problems.