Today really messed me up

[Bak86]

Last week i broke up with a girl i was seeing for about 1,5 month. My ex overheard me saying i broke up, when i was talking to a coworker/friend. This happened last week. She didn't flinch. So i thought it's no big deal to her. She's over me i thought, even though i had the feeling she was painting me white again. Couple of months ago, i had her transferred to another department. She was sitting in a place i couldn't really see her, so that was nice. Anyway, today i sat in my regular spot at work, with my coworker/friend next to me. She doesn't really like him. 9 am, my ex comes in the office and she suddenly sits down across my desk. What the heck. At first she was really cranky, because she didn't sleep well(she never does) and she kinda looked like a mess. But as the day went on, she started talking more and more, even tried to be flirty with me. She also told my coworker/friend that she's single. Is this behavior because she knows i'm single and she doesn't have a replacement?(she haven't had one since she left me). She also mentioned that she's in debt and talked about marriage a lot(victim role?).

Not sure what to think of this. Part of me wants to recycle, part of me is like get the hell out of here.

[Tiepje3]

Don't let her 'rent' so much space in your head. Don't over-analyse things. Focus on yourself.

You spent a whole day at work observing her, thinking about her and then some time writing this posting about her.

What would a recycle bring you but more heartache (and probably paying off her debt... .).

I'm not judging you, just observing from the outside. I understand how hard it is to let go.

[Bak86]

Don't let her 'rent' so much space in your head. Don't over-analyse things. Focus on yourself.

You spent a whole day at work observing her, thinking about her and then some time writing this posting about her.

What would a recycle bring you but more heartache (and probably paying off her debt... .).

I'm not judging you, just observing from the outside. I understand how hard it is to let go.

Yeah i should ignore her "games" once and for all. It's just so hard.

[FoolishMan]

Don't let her 'rent' so much space in your head. Don't over-analyse things. Focus on yourself.

You spent a whole day at work observing her, thinking about her and then some time writing this posting about her.

What would a recycle bring you but more heartache (and probably paying off her debt... .).

I'm not judging you, just observing from the outside. I understand how hard it is to let go.

Yeah i should ignore her "games" once and for all. It's just so hard.

She's obviously doing it for your benefit. However you could suffer a bait and dump attack here. I'd just say to people you've met someone else so she doesn't think you are single. Or tell her to piss off when she comes close to you.

[Bak86]

Interesting day today. I had a great conversation with her. Ended up me telling her i missed "us" and wanted to know if we could have dinner sometime. Nothing more, nothing less. She told me she didnt want to see me outside work and refused to answer if she missed me/us. She was really defensive all of a sudden. Does this mean she does miss me, but cant face me, because im still a trigger to her?

[FoolishMan]

Interesting day today. I had a great conversation with her. Ended up me telling her i missed "us" and wanted to know if we could have dinner sometime. Nothing more, nothing less. She told me she didnt want to see me outside work and refused to answer if she missed me/us. She was really defensive all of a sudden. Does this mean she does miss me, but cant face me, because im still a trigger to her?

You played into her hands a bit there. I hope this works out well for you. It must be tough to detach like this. Whatever happens I hope it's for the best for you.