I am thankful for...

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Considering tomorrow is Thanksgiving and a day for giving thanks, I wanted to post a thread on that topic. I am thankful and grateful for my family and friends, including those of you here in the BPD family. I would not have made it though the past six months without your caring supportive words, the stories you've shared, and your advice.

I am also thankful that for the first time in 4 years I will not be doing any of the following:

1. Holding up dinner with my family because my ex BPDbf couldn't be caring or respectful enough to show up on time.

2. Being disappointed that he showed up late and brought nothing but a bottle of vodka and soda water for himself.

3. Trying to convince (more like beg) him to stay after dinner because I was entertaining my family and he wasn't the center of attention, felt ignored and had a tantrum.

4. Looking forward to a 4 day Holiday weekend with him, only to have him be vague about his plans, pull a Houdini and disappear for the entire weekend with stories (lies) and excuses.

5. The 2nd & 3rd years when I invited him to Thanksgiving dinner because he claimed he had nowhere to go, his response was, "Oh, I don't know, I'm not really sure of my plans yet." He then took off to his sisters on the shore for the entire holiday weekend. He knew his plans all along and just didn't want or care to invite or include me.

I am thankful to never have to experience his crazy, horrid, cruel amd uncaring treatment again! 

[RedDove]

Considering tomorrow is Thanksgiving and a day for giving thanks, I wanted to post a thread on that topic. I am thankful and grateful for my family and friends, including those of you here in the BPD family. I would not have made it though the past six months without your caring supportive words, the stories you've shared, and your advice.

I am also thankful that for the first time in 4 years I will not be doing any of the following:

1. Holding up dinner with my family because my ex BPDbf couldn't be caring or respectful enough to show up on time.

2. Being disappointed that he showed up late and brought nothing but a bottle of vodka and soda water for himself.

3. Trying to convince (more like beg) him to stay after dinner because I was entertaining my family and he wasn't the center of attention, felt ignored and had a tantrum.

4. Looking forward to a 4 day Holiday weekend with him, only to have him be vague about his plans, pull a Houdini and disappear for the entire weekend with stories (lies) and excuses.

5. The 2nd & 3rd years when I invited him to Thanksgiving dinner because he claimed he had nowhere to go, his response was, "Oh, I don't know, I'm not really sure of my plans yet." He then took off to his sisters on the shore for the entire holiday weekend. He knew his plans all along and just didn't want or care to invite or include me.

I am thankful to never have to experience his crazy, horrid, cruel amd uncaring treatment again! 

[Heartandsole]

I am so thankful to be able to enjoy my family while not feeling like I am disassembling a time bomb one wire at a time the entire Thanksgiving weekend. 

I am Thankful to not hear... .":)on't you dare ever leave me alone for a minute with your Mother" ... .when all I really want to do is hang with my Father and Brother.

I won't have to be stressed out about showing up late, and leaving early to family gatherings.

I can wear whatever the F I want, and it will just be fine.

There is no tasmanian devil of stress whirling about in my kitchen today, raging about how she can't find some tool she's hid from herself and blaming me for it.

I will not be trapped in a car driving for hours and being interrogated, berated, devalued or humiliated. 

I will have my dog.

I will have my sanity.

Gratitude.

[Hawk Ridge]

For the sanity and validation these boards bring me

[Targeted]

Happy Thanksgiving to everyone here!  IM so glad I found this place when I did

And I am very thankful for it. And because I found this place here are some other things I am very thankful for.

I will not have to buy Thanksgiving dinner this year and get up early to cook it only to be asked to leave before her children get there,  and then come back and find out her " friend "

Had dinner with her and her children because she felt bad he had no place to go.

I am also very thankful that I will not be cheated on any more.

I am also very thankful Black Friday Christmas shopping Will be much easier on my wallet this year seeing as how I do not have to supply gifts for four other children of such a an appreciative ungrateful woman. 

I am also grateful that I do not have to decide any more between this relationship and my family, because she told me if we're going to continue I have to divorce my family.

I am very grateful that the stress is gone from being with a sex addicted woman with all guy friends.

I am very thankful for having the opportunity now to financially rebuild my life and possibly meet somebody Who may appreciate me and know how to respect a relationship someday.

I am thankful me and my children will no longer be called names or have A mentally ill person tried to tell and teach us how a real relationship goes.

I am very thankful for my Councillor as well because he has also helped me see this person will never change for me and defended me when she got upset I was not coming back and call child services on me.  ---- numerous times

I am very thankful for not having to cook and clean and do the extra hour and a half of chores at the end of my day any more for somebody who does not appreciate it.

I am very grateful for Learning how much I actually suppressed myself in order to stay in this relationship and in getting out of it I am thankful for not totally losing myself.

I am thankful that I no longer have to defend myself every minute of every day about what I am doing even when it is just stopping for a cup of coffee at a gas station or are constantly being accused of cheating when I am giving 110% to the relationship and the opposite is true

I am very thankful that my future camping trips with my children Will no longer be altered by somebody Who is ultimately going to ruin the trip anyways.

I am very thankful for not having to hear that I am a rotten bottom of the barrel biker any more because I ride a motorcycle.

And I am also very thankful that I only have to face my challenges instead of hers.

There is so much more to be thankful for.   Happy Thanksgiving.

[JackBlacknBlue]

I love this thread.

I am also thankful for the support this forum has provided. 

I am thankful that I finally am myself again after being in the FOG for last 4 years.

I am thankful for the lessons learned from this experience

I am thankful for the people in my life who are positive, supportive, and caring

I am thankful I had an option to get out of unhealthy relationship and thankful that I was finally able to do it

[freedom33]

I am thankful for the overall rs experience with the BPD as it has taught me patience and humility.

I am thankful for the most basic things this year - the fact that I have my health, food on the table, I live in a nice neighborhood, have good friends around me.

I am thankful for being me - for the first time I think I really appreciate myself and feel genuinely confident about who I am.

I am thankful that this year I will be able to fully enjoy the festive season with my friends and be present for the people that care for me instead of being in a constant state of anxiety and stress.

I am thankful for having regained my faith to god

I am thankful for having found this site when I needed it and to all the people that read my posts and helped me out!

Thanks!