Argh She's contacted me...

[Hadlee]

After 2 weeks of NC with BPD friend since I deleted her from Facebook, she messaged me saying she doesn't know why I unfriended her and was going to ask me if I wanted to catch up with her next week (she is back at work next week after being on leave for 2 weeks).  She added the usual kiss and hug to her message.  Ugh I was just getting to a place of peace too.  It almost feels like she is psychic - contacts me just when I am at peace and feeling happy.

I did fib and say I didn't deliberately delete her when I did a cull I also didn't re-add her.  It's easier for me that way. 

It's frustrating cause I know I need to keep the peace and be nice due to our work situation.  I don't want to deal with a hate campaign!  Just when I think she has gone off with a shiny new toy, she comes back all loving again.

As frustrating as this situation is - I have gained so much insight into the disorder since joining this site.  Plus getting responses to my posts and messages from some wonderful people has also helped.  So thank you 

I am not looking forward to next week at work now. 

[Deeno02]

Run... dont look back

[KeepOnGoing]

Sorry to hear this, Hadlee. Mine blocked me from Instagram, and when I suggested to my therapist that I block, delete, or unfriend-she advised against it. Said it might trigger my ex-friend wBPD.

Take it easy, and try not to interact, if possible. Keep posting.

[Hadlee]

Sorry to hear this, Hadlee. Mine blocked me from Instagram, and when I suggested to my therapist that I block, delete, or unfriend-she advised against it. Said it might trigger my ex-friend wBPD.

Take it easy, and try not to interact, if possible. Keep posting.

Thanks KeepOnGoing

I have just been to see my T and she said the same thing.

So now I'm wondering if I should send her a friend request to avoid any further trigger based craziness - especially after her last crazy attempt to eff with my mind!  No doubt she may be seething that I haven't done it already!

[Waifed]

Sorry to hear this, Hadlee. Mine blocked me from Instagram, and when I suggested to my therapist that I block, delete, or unfriend-she advised against it. Said it might trigger my ex-friend wBPD.

Take it easy, and try not to interact, if possible. Keep posting.

Thanks KeepOnGoing

I have just been to see my T and she said the same thing.

So now I'm wondering if I should send her a friend request to avoid any further trigger based craziness - especially after her last crazy attempt to eff with my mind!  No doubt she may be seething that I haven't done it already!

I say do what you think is right for you. You know more about the situation than your therapist. It is no longer about your ex. Take care of yourself first.

[Hadlee]

Thanks Waifed 

You are right - it is about me now.  Adding her back on Facebook is not right for me.  Got a shock earlier as I saw her at work.  She's not due back till next week, so don't know why she was there.

I had a feeling of dread in my tummy when I saw her.  Definitely a sign for me to avoid her as best I can.

[Deeno02]

Oh, God no. Do whats good for you! I would never do that... .ever. Buts thats me. My T was good with that. She said the same thing. Its about me now, not her.