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Author Topic: How do you do your ex's birthday NC?  (Read 532 times)
RunForest
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« on: December 01, 2014, 07:02:08 AM »

The break up started when I first posted here and was supported in the strongest crisis.

Then during 6 weeks I saw him shortly once . he was supposed to take his stuff at my place but instead the lumberjack he is, came along with wood for my fireplace and he was pleasant with some weird bull**** without any connection with the discussion (that was supposed to win my heart again) it did it for the next 3 days. I asked him then to take news of me on the third day since i had a little surgery but had to came back driving on my own.

He told me he will call me on 5 p.m. . At 8.30 pm I haven't heard about him was very tired with my day at the hospital and called him and let him know my anger and that me who is inhibited to ask something, the very day I asked him to care about me and he don't do it, I do not view me getting old by his side AT ALL. And I hate my time being manipulate by late people behavior.

I was hoping he had a VERY good excuse but yes, he had : shopping after work, having a shower, having dinner, receiving a phone call from his brother (he is calling everyday his diagnosed psychopath brother - but this time it was another brother), waiting for a phone call from his sister, and ":)arling you know I would have call you ... ."

Yes I sure he would have ... .

So it was a long discussion on the phone, lots of goodwill from his side and suddenly he said goodbye, and like a devil out of a box :he told about  his buddy "I have to call him " using a loud voice suddenly. I thought he was gay with this guy 20 years younger and alcoholic and manipulating, and I asked him one day, he said no.

The next day I was accused no to sms him, and then after 2 stressful nights on my side, I made my decision and sent my last sms throwing him away.

My opinion is that after 6 month relationship that we have to choose priority in life : either the single man routine or making the relationship and partner a priority. all the more, in this relationship, I was ridiculed in the private moments, each times I run away and each time I went back.

The day after I brought back his lost of heavy stuff under his open garage when he was out at work (with some kindest words of break up on a card) . For I was afraid of him now he knows I wont change my mind.

I heard about him 8 days later, stoned/drunk on a long and devious voice message worthy of The Joker. I answer, factual, about money and blood tests.

I feel guilty to have let him down, I fear because tomorrow is his birthday. He will think of me and me too. But I wont send any "happy birthday message'' I am afraid it will make him very angry.

But I cannot send him the nice message I would like to, because it would send him contradictory information after we just break up.

No contact means No Happy Birthday isn't it ?



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« Reply #1 on: December 01, 2014, 07:41:39 AM »

Right. No contact means no happy birthday, if you're serious about breaking off this relationship. He will probably not acknowledge your birthday, trust me.
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« Reply #2 on: December 01, 2014, 07:54:19 AM »

Yep. Hers was October 1st. Didnt say a word. Mine was Oct 12th, she didnt either. Win win... .
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« Reply #3 on: December 01, 2014, 07:57:06 AM »

Drop him! No Contact is no contact.

Be strong!
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« Reply #4 on: December 01, 2014, 08:02:37 AM »

My birthday is in 5 days. I truely hope she forgets it. And if she sends me a card, it will look nice when it burns in my fireplace.
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« Reply #5 on: December 01, 2014, 12:42:01 PM »

My birthday is in 5 days. I truely hope she forgets it. And if she sends me a card, it will look nice when it burns in my fireplace.

My Xw took me to court the day before my 50th birthday. 

Whatever, I'm moving on... .
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RunForest
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« Reply #6 on: December 01, 2014, 03:38:28 PM »

Right. No contact means no happy birthday, if you're serious about breaking off this relationship. He will probably not acknowledge your birthday, trust me.

I'm sure you are right, unless bad message... .he told me he sent crappy sms to his ex - on her birthday, what I understood - because she owes him money. (He bought her a horse and payed alimonies for her daughters whom she wasn't living with)

Me : no horse, but he was a generous guy.

I regret the good moments but am sure this was foredoomed to failure with me losing my health.

So thanks I will do that.

Yep. Hers was October 1st. Didnt say a word. Mine was Oct 12th, she didnt either. Win win... .

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Drop him! No Contact is no contact.

Be strong!

Thanks nice of you!

My birthday is in 5 days. I truely hope she forgets it. And if she sends me a card, it will look nice when it burns in my fireplace.

My Xw took me to court the day before my 50th birthday. 

Whatever, I'm moving on... .

Have a nice birthday with kind people

My exbf is 51 tomorrow... .My day will be lighter... .less guilt, thanks to your advices and comforting replies , thank you everyone!

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