Another encounter... NC eludes me

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

So a mutual friend threw up a post on social media trying to get me followers, TOTALLY unrelated to anything about her and it was a picture of my car... .Honestly, I'd gone a few days thinking about her or this site.


She comments "wow maybe he'll be famous" Keep in mind she's supposedly super happy with perfect replacement.

to which my friend responded yup he will be. followed up by her comment of

Well he's "not the one for me" [this has been said at least 3+ times since breakup] followed by the friend saying yup maybe he'll find someone that cares which was met with "whatever I don't care, have a nice life, some other rude things about me. I kept out of it until he deleted it...

Then it switched to text where she said and I quote (this is not a typo)

"you need to move on bro life is tough and your not the one for me"

followed up by calm responses from me wishing her the best... .Then I though it was done then a demand for information on how I heard she had a BF, when I didn't respond quick enough "Whatever bye have a nice life, stay outta my life"

So I responded with how I'd heard... I'm certainly not fishing for info as thats only gotten me hurt so I'm actively avoiding it, something she thinks I'm not (Kind of like seeing her on the street had to be stalking and there could be no other reason)


Then after reading my kind response she told me "well remember the last convo you and where you got mad remember that you treated me like crap, and relive that day for the rest of your life"

Then she never responded to my last calm/kind message about that... .


Annnnnd I'm back feeling awful, I swear... .I'm left wondering why and how that series of events unfolded when I've actively tried to avoid her.

[DangIthurts]

So a mutual friend threw up a post on social media trying to get me followers, TOTALLY unrelated to anything about her and it was a picture of my car... .Honestly, I'd gone a few days thinking about her or this site.


She comments "wow maybe he'll be famous" Keep in mind she's supposedly super happy with perfect replacement.

to which my friend responded yup he will be. followed up by her comment of

Well he's "not the one for me" [this has been said at least 3+ times since breakup] followed by the friend saying yup maybe he'll find someone that cares which was met with "whatever I don't care, have a nice life, some other rude things about me. I kept out of it until he deleted it...

Then it switched to text where she said and I quote (this is not a typo)

"you need to move on bro life is tough and your not the one for me"

followed up by calm responses from me wishing her the best... .Then I though it was done then a demand for information on how I heard she had a BF, when I didn't respond quick enough "Whatever bye have a nice life, stay outta my life"

So I responded with how I'd heard... I'm certainly not fishing for info as thats only gotten me hurt so I'm actively avoiding it, something she thinks I'm not (Kind of like seeing her on the street had to be stalking and there could be no other reason)


Then after reading my kind response she told me "well remember the last convo you and where you got mad remember that you treated me like crap, and relive that day for the rest of your life"

Then she never responded to my last calm/kind message about that... .


Annnnnd I'm back feeling awful, I swear... .I'm left wondering why and how that series of events unfolded when I've actively tried to avoid her.

[Skip]

She's pushing your buttons.  Your JADEing.  She getting payback by watching you jump and wiggle.

It's emotional immaturity.  It sucks.

Its imortant to recognize that she is not trying to understand or resolve or be reasonable.  She just getting emotional release in her power over you.

[DangIthurts]

She's pushing your buttons.  Your JADEing.  She getting payback by watching you jump and wiggle.

It's emotional immaturity.  It sucks.

Its imortant to recognize that she is not trying to understand or resolve or be reasonable.  She just getting emotional release in her power over you.

It definitely worked, and yeah I'm constantly Jading with her... .Always hoping to set the record straight, because that will bug me to no end. Its not that it ended or if she really were SUPER PERFECT HAPPY but knowing its all been twisted and mangled into something it wasn't. Feel like that'll always get to me.

I just find it all odd that it had nothing to do with her, and that "Bro" part and the multiple alluding to your not the one.

[Skip]

and that "Bro" part

You think someone else is sending the text?

[DangIthurts]

and that "Bro" part

You think someone else is sending the text?

Given the time it was going on. I doubt it, along with the jabs and that "she's not the one" [heard this multiple times]... But I guess anything is possible. She called me a few weird names like dude and buddy post break up pre replacement.

I was also not looking to say anything that would bring them closer, just wished her to be happy and said glad your life is working out without me in it.