I wonder if your exes had ever have a broken heart ?

[guy4caligirl]

I know that my ex never went through a broken heart to know how she did me when gone. She Left me with a broken heart without shedding a tear , no remorse , No I am sorry nothing  !

I wonder if some of you had any knowledge if your exes ever had a broken heart ?

[oletimefeelin]

Absolutely.  I am not sure of the particular situation of your ex, but I'd almost guarantee she had her heart broken more than once.  Their behavior is all about self-preservation.  Their emotions are all consuming.  Consideration of the needs of another is very difficult.  

[AwakenedOne]

When I met her she told me of her broken heart caused by the dude who dumped her two months earlier. Her description of that guy painted a picture of him as a total scumbag who had zero good qualities. She finally stopped talking about her heartache after two months. I guess I was a temporary replacement for that douchebag.

[Splitblack4good]

See now this is interesting and I'm glad you posted this my exBPD gf is claiming I broke her heart she has said this more than just a few times in the break up week and I truly believe she has ! I could always tell how she was feeling or thinking by looking into her eyes and when she was hurting I can't explain it you just have to be ther plus she is so angry but a little upset tone in voice when she says you are the only one to have really broken my heart it's a pain like no other I have dropped my guard and felt feelings like no other with you and you have tore my heart out how dare you then starts crying in a way Ive never seen before .

So yes I think a BPD person can have a broken heart depending on how the are with each person

[myself]

Each time someone gets put up on a pedestal, and is seen to be human/not perfection or a savior, and then becomes devalued/cast away, a pwBPD's heart must break even more. A lifetime of that. So, yeah, they do.

[Mutt]

I have to agree. The break-up hurt my ex. She displays it differently.

[evilpepsi]

Each time someone gets put up on a pedestal, and is seen to be human/not perfection or a savior, and then becomes devalued/cast away, a pwBPD's heart must break even more. A lifetime of that. So, yeah, they do.

I agree. Their entire lifetime has probably been breaking their hearts over and over... .

[lm911]

Each time someone gets put up on a pedestal, and is seen to be human/not perfection or a savior, and then becomes devalued/cast away, a pwBPD's heart must break even more. A lifetime of that. So, yeah, they do.

I agree. Their entire lifetime has probably been breaking their hearts over and over... .

[guy4caligirl]

I have to agree. The break-up hurt my ex. She displays it differently.

Even if we were dumped ?

[guy4caligirl]

Each time someone gets put up on a pedestal, and is seen to be human/not perfection or a savior, and then becomes devalued/cast away, a pwBPD's heart must break even more. A lifetime of that. So, yeah, they do.

Songbook ?

How could they hurt after being the dumpy and go into an intimate R/S with the replacement ?

[Lion Fire]

According to my ex EVERYONE had broken her heart!

That was her side and I believed it for a while. After we split I had contact with one of her exbf's and he told me another story. She tore him to shreds, much worse than me. I think she has hurt way more than she's been hurt.

[hergestridge]

I think my exwife was practically heartbroken in every situation where normal people would have been a little hurt. Whenever I got angry with her (which was not often) she saw it as if I had betrayed and rejected her.

I think people with BPD live in a constant state of heartbreak.

[Deeno02]

I guess so. She broke her husband of 15 years till he left her. I suppose that she had a broken heart. With me, I was dumped by text. She learned well... .

[myself]

How could they hurt after being the dumpy and go into an intimate R/S with the replacement ?

They're already hurting, which causes/leads to the dumping/being dumped.

Jumping into a new relationship doesn't automatically wipe away the pains.

Much of this is shame and fear, which aren't easy feelings for any of us.

[Rise]

Even if we were dumped ?

I think it depends on what you mean by a broken heart. Is her heart broken in the same way yours is? Probably not. But she most likely has felt deeply hurt by every failed relationship she's ever had, even if she was the one that initiated the break-up. That is in no way to put any blame on you. People with BPD are so hyper-sensitive to rejection and disappointment that it is literally impossible to not do something that hurts them deeply.

[Mutt]

Even if we were dumped ?

I think it depends on what you mean by a broken heart. Is her heart broken in the same way yours is? Probably not. But she most likely has felt deeply hurt by every failed relationship she's ever had, even if she was the one that initiated the break-up. That is in no way to put any blame on you. People with BPD are so hyper-sensitive to rejection and disappointment that it is literally impossible to not do something that hurts them deeply.

Yes guy.