A constant theme in my marriage was my ex was always in a constant state of crisis and everything was the most important thing that had every happened to him and I always managed to mess it up for him. Over dramatizing everything. I responded as the "rescuer" and always went to his aid and support. All that did was reinforce his dramatic ways. When I didn't respond as he wanted he would throw it back in my face later as well. It was a cycle that never ended until I left. Even then it continued for a while as I fought my way away from him.
As for the future and not knowing if something is a real crisis or not. I'm working on if its a crisis then it's going to be their crisis and it is not for me to rescue people but to believe in them and let them cope with their own crisis. No idea if that will work, or if I can to that. All I know is my habit of being a rescuer is not a healthy one for me or for my ex so I'm going to try not to do that again.
Who knows how that plan will go!