Changing Phone Number

[NYMike]

Is it a good idea to change your phone number.?

How many have changed there phone number.?

I still have not because I have a business and that number is my livelihood for 10 years now.

I have been laying low on the whole changing my number.But this is a way for her to call me if she does.

Any thoughts about the cell phone and our numbers.?

[MrConfusedWithItAll]

Depending on your provider you may be able to block her from calling.  Of course she could call you from another phone.  Thankfully I never memorised my ex's number so I deleted her as a contact.  I know the last three numbers of her number so any call ending in those numbers I ignore.  Any text is deleted.  This way I cannot contact her when the urge appears.  It has worked for me.

[Seriously?]

I am considering changing my number, as well. It will be a much bigger deal for you, NYMike. I am almost outraged on your behalf.  To think you use your phone for business and have to consider changing it to keep her from calling is so unfair. It seems like everything about dealing with pwBPD is unfair to the rest of us.

[rollercoaster24]

Hi all

Phone numbers, what an interesting thread and one I have much to think about.

In the 4 years I was with BP, I never changed my number, (had that same number for around 7 years now, 4 with BP) and given it is my Business number too, with heaps of people to contact should I change it, I would rather not.

BP on the other hand changed  his number like the weather. When I first met him, he had the same number for about 6 months, and he was getting hang up calls, (TV and laughing in the background) when I met him as a friend, and for almost 2 years after we were involved.

The story went that there was these 2 crazy females that he had been friends with briefly, but figured out they were 'immoral and trouble', so he dumped the friendships, (actually kicked one out of his car in the middle of a busy city street after screaming abuse at her too). Irony ay? They were immoral so they deserved his wrath apparently!

He continued to deny any 'intimate' involvement with either of them, but my feeling was that if they had all only been friends, and had so many 'other men' at their beck and call, then why would they continue to harass and stalk him?

His excuse for changing his number so often, was that he couldn't afford to put credit on his phone, so was always buying $2 SIM cards which only had a 3-4 month life span if you didn't put credit on them. I must check this story out with all the Phone Companies, as I suspected this wasn't entirely true either!

Not that it matters now since I am not with him.

But phones? Arghhhhhh

If I drove slowly ahead or behind BP whilst on our way to my place or anywhere else, BP would accuse me of texting my secret lover whilst driving, he was obsessed with my phone and would go through it at any opportunity he could. Yet when he was at my place, he would often leave his phone in his car, (under his seat). I thought that was weird since he was always professing poverty, and trying to sell things on the net for extra money, (usually car parts or things of value that 'he found'. So there wasn't a week gone by that he didn't have something for sale, and would be expecting calls from potential buyers.

It seemed odd that he preferred to leave his phone in his car so often.

Like everything else about him, I have to wonder how much of it was a lie... .

[BorisAcusio]

I would have already changed it but the provider charges about 90 dollars equivalent for something that is free of charge in most countries.

[Lolster]

I never changed mine, just ignored the known calls/texts and ignored texts from unknown numbers that simply said things like 'Hi.' 

Now I use a blocking app, but it wont stop calls from unknown numbers, or hang ups from withheld numbers. 

Hmm, difficult situation for you.  I would perhaps try and ignore known unwanted numbers as much as you can and see how that goes for you for now?

[bunnyrabit]

yes I changed my phone number, now some 2.5 months ago. I just knew she wasn't gonna stop calling me and I just didn't want her to have that power over me and also to show her that I meant business.

The last time I heard her was when she was calling me from her other boyfriend's place to tell me that she loved me. At first I was like wow, so happy you came to that conclusion so I will see you tonight then? She answered that that she was going to spend the night with him still... .

At that point I just instinctively yanked the sim card out of my phone and threw it away. I just couldn't take any more of it and I knew she still had some more tricks up here sleeve, seeing as I was quite a useful pawn in her sick little triangle she had set up.

[going places]

I have had the same phone number for over 10 years.

I have Verizon, and he is blocked.

This is MY phone and MY phone number. I will not let him control ONE thing about me!

So no, I will not change my number.