Gone Girl (spoilers)

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

I can't believe how much the character from Gone Girl reminded me of my ex. The lies, smearing, lack of remorse, and sometimes sociopathic behavior. It was a trigger for me to watch this movie and I thought I post about it... .awful, awful, awful.

It was really interesting to see how the male character fell in love and thought he met the greatest person in the world - just like I did - only to find out the true awful nature of the person he was with. I relate and empathize.

Glad I've moved on!  But I had to write about this.

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I can't believe how much the character from Gone Girl reminded me of my ex. The lies, smearing, lack of remorse, and sometimes sociopathic behavior. It was a trigger for me to watch this movie and I thought I post about it... .awful, awful, awful.

It was really interesting to see how the male character fell in love and thought he met the greatest person in the world - just like I did - only to find out the true awful nature of the person he was with. I relate and empathize.

Glad I've moved on!  But I had to write about this.

[hurting300]

What's the movie about ?

[cosmonaut]

Haven't seen Gone Girl, but Silver Linings Playbook made me a mess.  Beyond triggering.  It was me and my ex.  Without the happy ending.

[jp254958]

The diner scene in Silver Linings Playbook was more like my ex. The thing about Hollywood is that it is a business and it needs to sell good stories. Very dark stories are rarely sellable... .but in reality (spoiler alert), the girl character in SLP would have idealized, then demonized, then split, then smeared, then found a new victim.

Gone Girl is a story about a couple who get married and the wife disappears. The story is about trying to figure out what happened to her. I can't get into the details or it will spoil the fun. Very good movie!

[cosmonaut]

Yes, I agree.  There will in all likelihood be no happy ending to SLP on a longer timeline.  It's unfortunate that the film took the easy Hollywood out with the happily ever after love story, because the characterization and acting were absolutely perfect in regards to BPD.  The characterization of bipolar wasn't too far off either.  It was a movie that went right to the heart with me, because my ex and I were also two complete nut cases that found each other in the world, fell madly in love, and for a while we, like in the movie, finally felt that we had found someone that understood us and wouldn't ever judge us for being who we are.  Tragically, the nature of BPD doesn't allow that to last.  Maybe they will make a sequel where it all falls apart.  I won't dare watch it, though.

Ironically, I only really now feel like Bradly Cooper's character who can't let go of his ex rather than before I met my BPDex... .

[hurting300]

My girlfriend disappeared just like that. No note, NO nothing. She took our daughter too. I could not watch it.

[fromheeltoheal]

Gone Girl is a great movie on a few levels, and holds up to repeated viewings.  Beyond the wacko wife, the film is somewhat misogynistic and Ben Affleck's character is no saint either; the themes go beyond that relationship and provide some pointed social commentary on modern marriage in general.  Recommended, although us borderline survivors will surely connect in a way that most may not.