A Very Short Question.

[Depression = 72% of members]

Would a female pwBPD cheat with her best friends husband?

[Willingtolearn]

Would a female pwBPD cheat with her best friends husband?

[hurting300]

You don't have to be borderline to do that. The world is full of completely normal low life's.

[TheDude]

You don't have to be borderline to do that. The world is full of completely normal low life's.

That was my initial thought too.

[hurting300]

Not all borderline's act alike. Some don't cheat. Some do.

[HappyNihilist]

My exBPDbf cheated on his first wife with her sister. (Of course it was the sister's fault because she came on to him so hard.) As TheDude and hurting said, cheating is far from restricted to pwBPD, and not all pwBPD cheat. However, given pwBPD's propensity for both impulsive behavior and self-destructive behavior -- along with their inherent lack of adult emotional intimacy -- I will say that they seem a little more prone to infidelity than perhaps the general population does.

[billypilgrim]

Short answer?  Yes.  If that's what they think will make them happen in this moment, then by all means.  PW/BPD are incredibly impulsive.  Their super-egos are underdeveloped and therefore are unable to override the overly impulsive desires of the Id.  Or at least that's the Freudian explanation.  They can't see or think of long term consequences.  They need instant relief.  If sleeping with their best friend's husband is what will provide them that immediate relief, then by all means.

[Infern0]

I'm just going to say yes.

I'd bet money on it.

[fred6]

I'm just going to say yes.

I'd bet money on it.

You know Infern0, now that I think about it. My ex said that she hated cheaters. But yet she was with 2 married guys in the past, and got pregnant by one of them. Kind of seems like a big inconsistency in logic doesn't it? I realize more and more on a daily basis... .

[billypilgrim]

I'm just going to say yes.

I'd bet money on it.

You know Infern0, now that I think about it. My ex said that she hated cheaters. But yet she was with 2 married guys in the past, and got pregnant by one of them. Kind of seems like a big inconsistency in logic doesn't it? I realize more and more on a daily basis... .

Mine was the same way.  Said she really thought cheating was low.  Yet she also told me that she had cheated on every serious relationship she'd ever had.   She even told me about cheating on a boyfriend just because he had cheated on her.   

[fred6]

I'm just going to say yes.

I'd bet money on it.

You know Infern0, now that I think about it. My ex said that she hated cheaters. But yet she was with 2 married guys in the past, and got pregnant by one of them. Kind of seems like a big inconsistency in logic doesn't it? I realize more and more on a daily basis... .

Mine was the same way.  Said she really thought cheating was low.  Yet she also told me that she had cheated on every serious relationship she'd ever had.   She even told me about cheating on a boyfriend just because he had cheated on her.   

Well yes, mine cheated on me. But in the past, she was also involved with guys cheating on their wives. I just kind of realized how much non sense came out of her mouth. Was anything she said true? Hahaha

[Infern0]

Mine was also very anti cheating yet cheated on the guy before me,  left him,  got with the guy she was cheating with,  then cheated on him with the first guy.

I'm not sure if she cheated on me, probably.  But she cheated on the guy she left me for with me. I also noticed she re-added one of the first two guys on facebook a few weeks back when I was disengaging,  likely setting him up for my old position. She's disgraceful.

[Beach_Babe]

Would a female pwBPD cheat with her best friends husband?

They would cheat with Spongebob honey. Does not matter.

[CareTaker]

They more than cheat. Normally there is something they get out of the cheating. These relationships and/or flings always have strings attached. Therefore it is called dysfunctional.

[Infared]

Yes... .they will cheat with any and everyone. I was in denial about it. Facing that reality was not easy. 

[Infern0]

They more than cheat. Normally there is something they get out of the cheating. These relationships and/or flings always have strings attached. Therefore it is called dysfunctional.

Indeed,  mine cheated on my replacement with me, then dropped hints that something was going on. Such as "I'm going for dinner at infern0's house tonight"

bear in mind that Infern0 was painted to the replacement as a psycho stalker ex after she got with him.

then shed come round and had sex with me and ignored all his texts.  I'd see her phone blowing up and she would just ignore it.  She would stay at my place until like 2am,  spooning with me, running her fingers through my hair,  gazing into my eyes and telling me that she loved me and wanted to leave the other guy because I was "the one" and she knew what we had was real.

She would then go home, and continue her sex deprivation on him and telling him she didn't like to be touched, he'd rage at her and accuse her of cheating on him. She would cry and play the victim and then he'd immediately feel guilty,  and start groveling and apologizing for a few days and usually spend a few hundred on jewelry,  teddy bears,  clothes etc until she "forgave" him and texted me that we had to stop what we were doing for now and she couldn't leave him,  but one day she would.

Then after a few days she would fall out with him and ask if she could come over again. Wrinse and repeat

I wish I was making this up.  But that's how she rolled.  

Thank goodness I'm away from her

[fred6]

They more than cheat. Normally there is something they get out of the cheating. These relationships and/or flings always have strings attached. Therefore it is called dysfunctional.

Indeed,  mine cheated on my replacement with me, then dropped hints that something was going on. Such as "I'm going for dinner at infern0's house tonight"

bear in mind that Infern0 was painted to the replacement as a psycho stalker ex after she got with him.

then shed come round and had sex with me and ignored all his texts.  I'd see her phone blowing up and she would just ignore it.  She would stay at my place until like 2am,  spooning with me, running her fingers through my hair,  gazing into my eyes and telling me that she loved me and wanted to leave the other guy because I was "the one" and she knew what we had was real.

She would then go home, and continue her sex deprivation on him and telling him she didn't like to be touched, he'd rage at her and accuse her of cheating on him. She would cry and play the victim and then he'd immediately feel guilty,  and start groveling and apologizing for a few days and usually spend a few hundred on jewelry,  teddy bears,  clothes etc until she "forgave" him and texted me that we had to stop what we were doing for now and she couldn't leave him,  but one day she would.

Then after a few days she would fall out with him and ask if she could come over again. Wrinse and repeat

I wish I was making this up.  But that's how she rolled.  

Thank goodness I'm away from her

That's nuckin futs man! Her new supply could have been any of us and probably was some of us.

[Infern0]

They more than cheat. Normally there is something they get out of the cheating. These relationships and/or flings always have strings attached. Therefore it is called dysfunctional.

Indeed,  mine cheated on my replacement with me, then dropped hints that something was going on. Such as "I'm going for dinner at infern0's house tonight"

bear in mind that Infern0 was painted to the replacement as a psycho stalker ex after she got with him.

then shed come round and had sex with me and ignored all his texts.  I'd see her phone blowing up and she would just ignore it.  She would stay at my place until like 2am,  spooning with me, running her fingers through my hair,  gazing into my eyes and telling me that she loved me and wanted to leave the other guy because I was "the one" and she knew what we had was real.

She would then go home, and continue her sex deprivation on him and telling him she didn't like to be touched, he'd rage at her and accuse her of cheating on him. She would cry and play the victim and then he'd immediately feel guilty,  and start groveling and apologizing for a few days and usually spend a few hundred on jewelry,  teddy bears,  clothes etc until she "forgave" him and texted me that we had to stop what we were doing for now and she couldn't leave him,  but one day she would.

Then after a few days she would fall out with him and ask if she could come over again. Wrinse and repeat

I wish I was making this up.  But that's how she rolled.  

Thank goodness I'm away from her

That's nuckin futs man! Her new supply could have been any of us and probably was some of us.

Yeah its nuts alright.

I'm wondering if my pwBPD needs upgrading to pwBPD/pwASPD because some of the ___ she pulls is beyond the pale. She is so dangerous I belive she could potentially drive my replacement to suicide if she carries on like this

[fred6]

They more than cheat. Normally there is something they get out of the cheating. These relationships and/or flings always have strings attached. Therefore it is called dysfunctional.

Indeed,  mine cheated on my replacement with me, then dropped hints that something was going on. Such as "I'm going for dinner at infern0's house tonight"

bear in mind that Infern0 was painted to the replacement as a psycho stalker ex after she got with him.

then shed come round and had sex with me and ignored all his texts.  I'd see her phone blowing up and she would just ignore it.  She would stay at my place until like 2am,  spooning with me, running her fingers through my hair,  gazing into my eyes and telling me that she loved me and wanted to leave the other guy because I was "the one" and she knew what we had was real.

She would then go home, and continue her sex deprivation on him and telling him she didn't like to be touched, he'd rage at her and accuse her of cheating on him. She would cry and play the victim and then he'd immediately feel guilty,  and start groveling and apologizing for a few days and usually spend a few hundred on jewelry,  teddy bears,  clothes etc until she "forgave" him and texted me that we had to stop what we were doing for now and she couldn't leave him,  but one day she would.

Then after a few days she would fall out with him and ask if she could come over again. Wrinse and repeat

I wish I was making this up.  But that's how she rolled.  

Thank goodness I'm away from her

That's nuckin futs man! Her new supply could have been any of us and probably was some of us.

Yeah its nuts alright.

I'm wondering if my pwBPD needs upgrading to pwBPD/pwASPD because some of the ___ she pulls is beyond the pale. She is so dangerous I belive she could potentially drive my replacement to suicide if she carries on like this

Mine wasn't that bad, but then again maybe she was and I just didn't know about it. But thinking back, I didn't ever contemplate suicide. But I most definitely told myself on several occasions that I didn't want to wake up the next morning.

[going places]

yes.

Yes.

YEs.

YES.

[no_ordinary]

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They would cheat with Spongebob honey. Does not matter. [/quote]
the uglier the better... yuck

[Infern0]

Same here with not wanting to wake up.  I remember thinking "I no longer fear death" like if it happened it wouldn't have been a bad thing,  at least I wouldn't be suffering in this miserable existence anymore haha.  Funny how a few weeks of no contact and I no longer feel like that.  

But I do fear for the new guy,  I honestly belive he will stay until the bitter end, and I make no bones about it,  my ex enjoys torturing her boyfriends,  she actually enjoys having the ability to cause emotional damage to them and this guy I don't think has the ability to get away from her like I did.

I honestly wouldn't be shocked to hear he's killed himself,  she already gave him a nervous breakdown and a few other nice things too but he's still hanging in there fighting for her to love him.