Anger toward the PD family? You betcha!
They were the ones who always said that no matter what happened with BP, I would always be welcome and to stay in touch, (made to feel I was part of the family).
What happened when we split?
Pre May this year, (after splitting for good in March after 4 year rollercoaster) I called his parents, just to say 'Hi' and check in on how THEY were doing. Their phone rang and rang out and they never picked up. I didn't bother trying again, as I knew from the past that although they had said to 'stay in touch whatever happens and I was always welcome' they didn't really mean it.
OK so maybe they weren't home, but I happen to know that given their ages, (in their late 70's) they aren't out that often during the normal working week.
BP would 'instruct' them not to answer their phone to me if it so suited, and no matter what he had done to them, or said, blood is thicker than water in the end.
It annoys me that BP's elderly Father still rides his bike past my workplace occasionally, (maybe that's where BP got the idea that stalking is OK
), as I know he is only having a nosy, given he lives 40 minutes drive away in another town and all.
I am also extremely annoyed with BP's Sister In-law at present.
She shops at the Centre I work at, and each time in the past that she would shop there, she would only engage me if I saw her first, she wouldn't seek me out or anything. Then she would say Hi, and ask if I had heard from BP via phone, I would always tell her either Yes or No, telling her the last contact was in late August after attempts by him in May, June and August and my unwillingness to keep ringing him, he dropped off the radar too.
Fast mover ay? He manages to find and secure a replacement in a matter of months, if he wasn't secretly seeing her before we broke up as her client!
His Sister In-law would always tell me nothing had changed for BP, he was still unemployed, still sleeping in his car, still lying, they don't bother with him like everyone else in the family, and generally being nasty and cynical about him, seeming to want me to join in with her sarcasm and opinions.
At some point she told me he had told his parents he was 'staying with friends' in some suburb 20 minutes away, but that it 'wasn't a good environment for him', choke
Her last contact with me, 23/12 she sought me out, (unusual) and approached me behind whilst I was cleaning windows at the Centre. She said she had 'good news of BP'. If I hadn't been on the floor at the time, I would have stopped her before she told me the details, adding that although I was happy to hear the news was good this time, it would be better if I didn't hear the minute details.
But she kept on talking before I could halt matters.
She almost sounded smug too, as she said that BP was now working, (after 6 yrs unemployed, 4 with me), on a Farm Stay South of here by 2-3 hours drive, (told me the city too). I said Great, and tried to escape, but then she said 'I think he has met his match Roller, she is a Psychiatrist and is keeping him in line, and I think he just wanted to get away from everyone and everything.'
After which she gleefully wished me and my Family a very Merry Xmas and Happy New Years, and off she went.
So am I angry at his family? hell yea.
Suddenly just because he has a job and a new girlfriend that seems to cancel out all the evils of his last 13 years, and 4 of those with me too.
It seems to cancel out the fact that he still has a tendency to be very dangerous, still abusive, dishonest, and cruel.
And just because his new girlfriend happens to be a Psychiatrist?
Is that a recipe for disaster or what?
I never saw him as a person who liked people 'managing him'. So what happens when she starts analysing his behaviour and he gets angry? Pfft I can just imagine.
