Hi
Like many of us Im sure th pain I am feeling is natural. We have to deal with a break up that is so much more painful on so many levels than a normal break up.
I will let you in on a few secrets:
1. Time does NOT heal wounds. Hard work and knowledge, and forgiveness heals wounds.
Yes, there will be a scar... .but scars are 'beauty marks' left for you to see; You Survived!
You have to put 100% of your focus on YOU and heal YOU and give YOU directions, hopes, dreams, goals.
I feel like I've lost all my hopes and dreams and that my best friend turned into my worst enemy overnight. She was always a false friend and it was always high drama, having to get razor blades off her, having her dump hot food on my head but I have lost my purpose for being, keeping her even was a big part o my life and along with that there is no one to cuddle, and I can't imagine meeting anyone ever again.
For me personally:
I too, felt lost.
When I stopped thinking with my feelings / heart, and started thinking with my 'logical brain'... .
1. My ex was never my friend. Friends do not treat people the way he treated me.
2. The 'hopes and dreams and goals' *WE* had? Well it was never "we"... .it was just me. Yeah, he 'acted like' it was a we, but it never was. SO I will not mourn, miss, or regret something that never was.
I got duped; I know this now; turn the page.
I need to get on with life... .stop looking in the rearveiw mirror of life (and all that is in the past, and behind me) and start looking through the HUGE windshield of life in front of me (my future).
I do long for human contact.
I do not miss ex's contact; gross.
But I do miss human contact.
I am in NO WAY shape or form anywhere CLOSE to being ready for a new relationship.
I am healing "me" first!
Don't worry about 'meeting someone' (34? such a young one!)
Heal YOU and make goals, follow your passions, ect... .go live.
Trust me, when you are confident and living life, you will attract MANY potential mates!
I'm only 34 and yet I feel unattractive and that no one will want me. I have a good job, im ok looking and im generous and kind but the women are not flocking to me and I don't understand why not. I have a lot to offer and its leaving me feeling really hopeless about the future.
Today is a bad day
No one will gravitate to a "debby downer' (ask me how I know! :-)
You need to get out there, follow a passion, a dream, a goal... .
Get out there and live life... .
That positive energy will ooze out your pours and put out a signal that will have people flocking to you trying to figure out what you are all about.
Personal appearance and financial standings are superficial and temporary things.
You don't WANT someone who is attracted to the superficial.
Because they are temporary.
BUT
Get out there... .and live? That will attract people who are attracted who WHO you are, not 'what' you are.
Those, are keepers!