getting the last word in.

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

What was your last words to the ex?

she told me I was being a ass because I told her please don`t do this to the girl you are seeing.

so I said .yep I sure am being a ass. I bet u tell her how everybody has abused you and how you did nothing to them. how great you are. saton was a angel until he showed his true colors . don`t worry I wil go ahead and hate myself for you . all I was to you was a toy that you pulled out when you needed someone . just like everybody else in your life. I wish I would of never met you. this is the  meanest thing I ever said to her.

[ajr5679]

What was your last words to the ex?

she told me I was being a ass because I told her please don`t do this to the girl you are seeing.

so I said .yep I sure am being a ass. I bet u tell her how everybody has abused you and how you did nothing to them. how great you are. saton was a angel until he showed his true colors . don`t worry I wil go ahead and hate myself for you . all I was to you was a toy that you pulled out when you needed someone . just like everybody else in your life. I wish I would of never met you. this is the  meanest thing I ever said to her.

[ShadowIntheNight]

What I said to her would be one giant BEEEEP! In the moment I was proud of myself for dropping the bomb on her. Afterwards I regretted it deeply because it's extraordinarily out of character for me. I got a chance to apologize about 3 months later. I made sure I did. I have yet to hear an apology from her about her actions which led me to behaving  stupidly. But that's not my guilt to have to live with. She's Catholic. I assure you she feels guilty for her actions at this point. She's hiding it behind her silence currently.

[downwhim]

"go find somebody else to abuse." Last words from me... .

[Infern0]

We got interrupted half way through a heated conversation and she had to go and then gave me silent treatment.

The gist of it was me saying I do care about her but that she needed to help herself because I'd tried to help over and over again and all it was doing was making me miserable.  Telling her she needed DBT if she was ever going to be truly happy and to not bother telling me how happy she was with my replacement because I know it's lies.  Oh yeah she was crying and saying I made her feel like a freak.

Fun times

[hurting300]

I love you, but I don't trust you. Then when I got home she was gone...

[Whitebread]

Him:  ":)rop dead"

Me:  "You first"

Oh so childish, and it was out of my mouth before

I knew it... .oh well. 

[ajr5679]

She texted me back and said. What are you talking about? I have told her the truth about me... .I need to go no contact again. I feel like I am going crazy.

[Joshuaua]

What I said to her would be one giant BEEEEP! In the moment I was proud of myself for dropping the bomb on her. Afterwards I regretted it deeply because it's extraordinarily out of character for me. I got a chance to apologize about 3 months later. I made sure I did. I have yet to hear an apology from her about her actions which led me to behaving  stupidly. But that's not my guilt to have to live with. She's Catholic. I assure you she feels guilty for her actions at this point. She's hiding it behind her silence currently.

i wouldn't hold your breath waiting for an apology. I'm not sure I've ever heard mine apologize or say the word sorry ever. Even when I say "you never appologizs, this is a good time to start" she still just avoids it. Also mine NEVER let me get the final word in. She'd flip endlessly over the phone and as soon as I started to lose my patience she hangs up immediately. Which ofcourse would send me chasing...     And losing all power.

[billypilgrim]

Me: "leave me alone."

Her: "wow."

Me: "you're one to talk."

Sick burn, I know .  But I didn't get a response from that.  It finally put a stop to the random life updates she kept sending me after she split.  I've been NC ever since, not that I had initiated any contact prior. 

What is it about these people and boundaries?  Can she really not put herself in my shoes and think, "hey, he probably doesn't want to hear about all the random crap going on in my life.  I should respect his space since I'm the one that left."  You don't get to call me and text me all the time when something happens in your world.  Find someone (she has) else to absorb your emotional diarrhea.

[ShadowIntheNight]

What I said to her would be one giant BEEEEP! In the moment I was proud of myself for dropping the bomb on her. Afterwards I regretted it deeply because it's extraordinarily out of character for me. I got a chance to apologize about 3 months later. I made sure I did. I have yet to hear an apology from her about her actions which led me to behaving  stupidly. But that's not my guilt to have to live with. She's Catholic. I assure you she feels guilty for her actions at this point. She's hiding it behind her silence currently.

i wouldn't hold your breath waiting for an apology. I'm not sure I've ever heard mine apologize or say the word sorry ever. Even when I say "you never appologizs, this is a good time to start" she still just avoids it. Also mine NEVER let me get the final word in. She'd flip endlessly over the phone and as soon as I started to lose my patience she hangs up immediately. Which ofcourse would send me chasing...     And losing all power.

I'm being facetious about her apologizing. However, I suspect that should she come crawling back she knows there will have to be some sort of an apology. Besides using someone else for now, I know she's not calling because a) she's punishing me b)too proud to say how wrong she was/is c) scared I'll tell her to drop dead.

I get a few blocked hang up calls a month. She's trying to work up to something. What it is remains to be seen.

[Popcorn71]

I feel some satifaction that my last words to him during our last conversation at the court to finalize our divorce were 'It looks to me, like you f***ed your life up' and then as I went to hand in the papers and he was following me like a lost puppy, 'Go on, go now, you're not needed here now'.

[Deeno02]

She got the last word in when I begged and pleaded in that damn gym to try and but it back together and I told her Im doing counseling to help with my faults (again taking the blame). Her response: "save it for your next girlfriend or your wife Molly (my daughter). What the heck? I just walked off, said nothing.