Hi everyone. I am new and have a trans granddaughter diagnosed with BPD

[GrandmaM]

I am pleased to have found this site.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[lever.]

Hello GrandmaM 

We are pleased you found this site too and I do think this forum for parents will be a good place for you to read and post as you are in a sort of parental role with your grandchild.

How old is she now?

One of the features of BPD is confusion about identity and this must be doubly difficult where there are gender identity issues.

Please post again and tell us a bit more about the problems you are facing. In the meantime there are links to helpful articles which you can read.

[meantcorn34]

Hi, My daughter is 22 and diagnosed with BPD and gender dysphoria. I am going with her next week on her first appointment at a clinic specializing in transgender issues including surgery. I am quite concerned about her because of identity issues with BPD, but she tells me she has felt as though she was in the wrong body since she was a little girl. I can't stop her, so I am going with her to help her as needed.

It's nice to know another family dealing with transgender.

[merlin4926]

My ex boyfriend was transgender. I knew him briefly as female and then he lived as male before his treatment and we were friends. I helped him through his surgery and we ended up in romantic relationship. It's not an easy path for anyone but particularly hard on someone with BPD.  I have to say that overall the help he got for gender issues was very good. Please feel free to pm if I can help at all.

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Can you tell us how things are going with her?

[lbjnltx]

Hi GrandmaM,

Glad you are here!

Does your granddaughter live with you?