We had a physical fight

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the last remark was re you being in the states

So do you think he is more addicted to you or vice versa ?

Apart from "exit barrier", we have developed a nice method to stop talking for 1-2 months in case of grave crisis, then retake it from the point where we stopped without any explanations ("are you back?" - "I am back" - "okay fine"

It serves as a safety valve in times of bad crisis (although I suppose he does switch supplies during this time)

[AnnaK]

the last remark was re you being in the states

So do you think he is more addicted to you or vice versa ?

Apart from "exit barrier", we have developed a nice method to stop talking for 1-2 months in case of grave crisis, then retake it from the point where we stopped without any explanations ("are you back?" - "I am back" - "okay fine"

It serves as a safety valve in times of bad crisis (although I suppose he does switch supplies during this time)

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[SlyQQ]

Seems like you have got it all pretty worked out you are going to have lots of blow ups but know how to handle them the relationship is a bit dagerous but that is part of the attraction and you have fairly realistic expectations e.g. you know he is going to cheat on you but your "boundary" is not to flaunt it infront of you the catch 22 is your boundries will always be tested because that is what spices up your relationship would you cheat on him ? an how do you think he would react if he caught you cheating?

[AnnaK]

Seems like you have got it all pretty worked out you are going to have lots of blow ups but

know how to handle them the relationship is a bit dagerous but that is part of the attraction

and you have fairly realistic expectations e.g. you know he is going to cheat on you but your

"boundary" is not to flaunt it infront of you the catch 22 is your boundries will always be

tested because that is what spices up your relationship would you cheat on him ? an how do you think he

would react if he caught you cheating?

Most probably I won't cheat.

It creates me a lot of stress to have multiple men chasing after me.

Why should I punish myself just to spite him?

In fact I tried to cheat, kissed someone, told him, it made him almost insane to know that next weekend I am going to go full-way, but then I reconsidered and changed the plan. I am still trying to get rid of the guy, although I told him from start that it was just a plan to spite my bf.

[AnnaK]

your "boundary" is not to flaunt it infront of you the catch 22 is your boundries will always be

tested because that is what spices up your relationship

Well, let's spice it up then The last night before my departure has turned out quite impressive for all participants without any serious harm done (in just a week, everyone was just fine).

I can be creative  ... .such as in response to being called a b___ blah blah I started to recite a very good poem in my native language with a lot of emotional expression ... .I like good poetry better than cursing, so why not?

[SlyQQ]

Cursing is soo limited but sounds like you should brush up on your insults and be creative

e.g. your behaving like a guttersnipe stop running round after girls like a headless chicken etc it might even give him pause  what was the poem ?

[AnnaK]

Cursing is soo limited but sounds like you should brush up on your insults and be  creative

e.g.

your behaving like a guttersnipe

stop running round after girls like a headless chicken etc

it might even give him pause

 what was the poem ?

It was in Russian. In India nobody understood it anyway

See, I am quite shy... .and i still don't like insulting people... .for they may take offence... .blush

Anyway, in crazy house being crazy is socially acceptable behaviour

[SlyQQ]

Somehow i never pictured you as the blushing kind A Russian no wonder you dont like the cold i was going to have a real hard time guessing that one

[AnnaK]

Somehow i never pictured you as the blushing kind

A Russian no wonder you dont like the cold i was

going to have a real hard time guessing that one

I don't blush. Still I can't help thinking that it's impolite to insult people ... .although obviously, when the guy is wandering around all drunk and two of his girlfriends are sitting sober in his room staring at him and each other, the rules of acceptable may be somewhat different.

I would say, that after we somehow get into this kind of situation - anything goes.

[SlyQQ]

Damn I should have just looked at your name Anna Russian of course there is no excuse for bad manners though i admire your integrity

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