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Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse... Have you considered that being critical, judgmental, or invalidating toward the other parent, no matter what she or he just did will only make matters worse? Someone has to be do something. This means finding the motivation to stop making things worse, learning how to interrupt your own negative responses, body language, facial expressions, voice tone, and learning how to inhibit your urges to do things that you later realize are contributing to the tensions.
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« Reply #30 on: January 05, 2015, 08:45:00 AM »

"When im done im done" is a healthy statement no? I told my ex this in the beginning of our relationship. As in, if I get dumped I refuse to be recycled. Not sure I'd be able to live up to it if I got the chance though...

I'm trying to remember what made me say say that... .

Yeah, healthy within a Nons mind because, when im done im done is us saying "I cant take you hurting me anymore, I cant take the lieing the cheating" Where as, when a BPD says when im done im done, you seem to find that those are merely words, yes i havent heard from my ex in 4 months, but, based on her she went back to her husband after 3 diferent relationships, so when im done, im done, doesnt really fit the words they project onto us. 
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