The ex and the behaviour, is this all normal?

[Depression = 72% of members]

So... I spoke a friend of mine yesterday and heart some things about my ex girlfriend...

First of all they never went into a relationship togheter because they got in to a fight because of me... My friend told my ex she wanted to be honest to me about them and my ex didn't want that. So my friend thought my ex was only thinking about herself. They still have low contact but she didn't hear from her until yesterday, and it was a teasy message.

Second of all my ex is a lesbian, or so she always said, she dint like boys and sure didn't like having sex with them. But her new profile picture on whatsapp is her cuddling with a boy... I thought they had a relationship, but she text friends of mine in a teasy way. So that's not clear to me...

Third of all she goes to clubs each weekend but also during the week and skips school aan her scholarship...

And last but nog least is she being depressive to friends and clearly finds herself a sad little girl...

Is this normal behaviour for an borderline person?

I know that I don't need to care, but I do...

And yesterday I opened the box she send me a few months ago, I didn't had the strength to do earlier. I found a few clothes, some old rubbish and some ripped stuffed animals... Why would she first tear them apart and then send me them? Why should anyone do something like that?

All the things in the box were presents from me to her except of the clothes... She only gave back the cheap things of course...

[balou_k]

So... I spoke a friend of mine yesterday and heart some things about my ex girlfriend...

First of all they never went into a relationship togheter because they got in to a fight because of me... My friend told my ex she wanted to be honest to me about them and my ex didn't want that. So my friend thought my ex was only thinking about herself. They still have low contact but she didn't hear from her until yesterday, and it was a teasy message.

Second of all my ex is a lesbian, or so she always said, she dint like boys and sure didn't like having sex with them. But her new profile picture on whatsapp is her cuddling with a boy... I thought they had a relationship, but she text friends of mine in a teasy way. So that's not clear to me...

Third of all she goes to clubs each weekend but also during the week and skips school aan her scholarship...

And last but nog least is she being depressive to friends and clearly finds herself a sad little girl...

Is this normal behaviour for an borderline person?

I know that I don't need to care, but I do...

And yesterday I opened the box she send me a few months ago, I didn't had the strength to do earlier. I found a few clothes, some old rubbish and some ripped stuffed animals... Why would she first tear them apart and then send me them? Why should anyone do something like that?

All the things in the box were presents from me to her except of the clothes... She only gave back the cheap things of course...

[Alberto]

Yeah, it's typical BPD behavior. My ex was a bisexual, but would lie and justify her sexual choices according to her plan.

[Infern0]

All pretty standard BPD behaviour

[balou_k]

Then they really are ___ed up... Maybe a little harsh to say but that's my opinion...