partner with BPD

[Depression = 72% of members]

My boyfriend suffers from BPD.  Mornings seem to be the toughest time for him.  He wakes up feeling frightened & overwhelmed.  I do my best to support, love & comfort him.  He knows he has BPD and we are trying together to find answers to help him.  He is a good person who feels empty and unworthy.  Any suggestions?  Thanks.

[purple62]

My boyfriend suffers from BPD.  Mornings seem to be the toughest time for him.  He wakes up feeling frightened & overwhelmed.  I do my best to support, love & comfort him.  He knows he has BPD and we are trying together to find answers to help him.  He is a good person who feels empty and unworthy.  Any suggestions?  Thanks.

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[Tim300]

Don't get too close to him emotionally -- that would destroy both of you.

[EaglesJuju]

Hi Purple,

Welcome.   I am glad that you found us.  BPD is a confusing disorder. A great way to start is to learn more about what the disorder entails.  Here is article to help you get started.  BPD: What is it? How can I tell?

Feelings of emptiness and unworthiness are very common in pwBPD. Supporting a pwBPD through difficult times can be a challenge but, there are great tools here to help you.  Is your bf in therapy? 

Perhaps you can share more of your story so we are fully able to help you.

[eyvindr]

Welcome to bpdfamily, purple62.

Has your BF been professionally dx'd with BPD? BPD is a very complicated disorder, and one that is tough to diagnose clearly. Are either of you working with a therapist, or are you talking to one as a couple?

Ev.

[maxsterling]

Hi purple62, 

The good news is, you know he has BPD.  Believe me, that is HUGE.  It puts some order to the chaos and helps you see things with a different perspective.  My wife has problems in the morning, too, and at bedtime.  I think her morning issues have to do with her not sleeping well, bad dreams, and anxiety over the coming day.  She once described her days as a challenge to make it to the end of the day without being bored or depressed.  No wonder she would be grumpy in the morning! 

Glad you found us here.  Keep posting - I am sure we can help