ExBPDgf said she stole jewelry to hurt ex-husband

[nowwhatz]

Last year my exgf plead guilty to solicitation of theft - felony in my state. She was very lucky not to go to prison and be deported and she is in danger of not having her resident alien status renewed in a couple of years because of this.  Basically what she did was steal some very expensive jewelry from an elderly person who was under her care as a med tech and then sell it at a pawn shop.

As I look back through the lifting fog the crime was really insideous and the family that was victimized lost their loved one who passed away and also whatever family heirlooms that were stolen by a person who was highly trusted.

When I was trying to digest the exgf's story last year (about June) I remember her specific reasons for doing the crime. She said she did it to hurt her ex-husband (2nd) who brought her to this country, cheated on her, left her, took her back and then divorced her.

No doubt she did hurt the ex-husband financially as he agreed to and paid for an expensive and highly capable lawyer (over 20k) who was able to get her charges reduced, incredibly, on a technicality.

As far as I can tell the exgf blames her criminal behavior on her ex-husband and her mental illness.  Incidentally the crime forced her to go to a psychiatrist where she was diagnosed as BPD and having a serious mental illness as defined by the state.

Is it common for persons with BPD to go as far as to commit a crime and blame others?

It seems like having a serious mental illness and especially BPD is almost a license to do whatever you want and never be responsible.

[Tim300]

Is it common for persons with BPD to go as far as to commit a crime and blame others?

Does not surprise me at all.  I saw a BPD write a check for hundreds of dollars for a service she received, and then cancel the check right away, giving me some ridiculous excuse about how the service wasn't up to par. 

This same pwBPD would tell me things like, "It's a dog-eat-dog world, you gotta be careful out there."  I think she thought that everyone is out to get everyone, so you better one up others first.  Of course this is not how the world really works -- most successful people achieve success by cultivating long-term, mutually beneficial, trusting relationships with others.