public shaming

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Hi All

During the midst of our breakup and over 3 months ago i posted on my instagram account a pep talk text message from my brother to me. It was basically 'you will be thankful in time this ended, you can do better and also made reference to princess fiona and shrek'  . No one on my instagram account knew who this was about as i deleted all connections from my account, nor did i tag anyone. Hindsight, i shouldnt have posted it i know, but when you are going through a breakup with someone like this your emotional state is questionable.

Last night it got the better of me and I looked at my ex's instagram account and she had posted this weekend a screenshot of the above post saying that she uses this post as motivation for her to lose weight and that she is 18 kilos down since she broke up with voldermort (me). Her friends obviously commeted bagging me and saying that she can do better and she replied bagging my family. I dont even know why she would bother posting something like that 4 months after we have broken up. It made me really annoyed because that post i made was the only thing i have ever put up in reference to our relationsip ending and i did it becasue it made me feel better and was a reminder to myself that i will be ok in the end. Whereas she has put up personal text message exchanges with us during this and everyone on her account knows it is about me. It is also frustrating becuase she has always played the victim to her friends, and they have no idea who she is and the evil and hurtful things she has said to me and done, inlcuding saying to me that she 'hopes i kill myself' and making countless threats against my family and their jobs. I just dont know why she felt the need to post this so many months after it ended, and when we are not in contact anymore. Calling me voldermort and bagging my family is so hurtful because I have tried to be kind to her, even after her awful awful outbursts and evil things she says and try to fix things or be friends with her when it all ended. I actually wish she would just leave me alone at this stage.

[Ezra]

Hi All

During the midst of our breakup and over 3 months ago i posted on my instagram account a pep talk text message from my brother to me. It was basically 'you will be thankful in time this ended, you can do better and also made reference to princess fiona and shrek'  . No one on my instagram account knew who this was about as i deleted all connections from my account, nor did i tag anyone. Hindsight, i shouldnt have posted it i know, but when you are going through a breakup with someone like this your emotional state is questionable.

Last night it got the better of me and I looked at my ex's instagram account and she had posted this weekend a screenshot of the above post saying that she uses this post as motivation for her to lose weight and that she is 18 kilos down since she broke up with voldermort (me). Her friends obviously commeted bagging me and saying that she can do better and she replied bagging my family. I dont even know why she would bother posting something like that 4 months after we have broken up. It made me really annoyed because that post i made was the only thing i have ever put up in reference to our relationsip ending and i did it becasue it made me feel better and was a reminder to myself that i will be ok in the end. Whereas she has put up personal text message exchanges with us during this and everyone on her account knows it is about me. It is also frustrating becuase she has always played the victim to her friends, and they have no idea who she is and the evil and hurtful things she has said to me and done, inlcuding saying to me that she 'hopes i kill myself' and making countless threats against my family and their jobs. I just dont know why she felt the need to post this so many months after it ended, and when we are not in contact anymore. Calling me voldermort and bagging my family is so hurtful because I have tried to be kind to her, even after her awful awful outbursts and evil things she says and try to fix things or be friends with her when it all ended. I actually wish she would just leave me alone at this stage.

[cehlers55]

I'm so sorry that that happened to you. It will get better. BPD people are just like that. They change the "story" of your relationship and make you out to be the bad guy. It happens. I think it always happens. my ex was always changing the story.

Hang in there. Do something good for yourself. Treat yourself well and like you have the flu. Eat right. Read. Do stuff with friends.

Speaking of friends, the ugliness of people with BPD always comes out. Your friends will know what's what. It might take awhile. Talk to your friends. Don't let her smear you while you hide at home.