I can have passion, and hot crazy sex but have no enjoyable consistent life or I can have a enjoyable and consistent life with someone who I can trust and who truly cares for me.
Are those the only two choices? Probably depends on how we define passion; does it include chaos and unpredictability? That can seem invigorating and make us feel fully alive, but is that the only definition? What if passion could be developing a relationship based on mutual respect and trust, and feeling safe enough to let fly with who we really are, sexually and otherwise, and finding true passion that way, from within a sustainable relationship? Relationships with 'normal' people don't need to be dead and boring, unless maybe there's something from our past that makes chaos seem comfortable and familiar?