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VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?" Parental alienation is when a parent allows a child to participate or hear them degrade the other parent. This is not uncommon in divorces and the children often adjust. In severe cases, however, it can be devastating to the child. This video provides a helpful overview.
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« on: February 01, 2015, 01:11:57 PM »

My computer was hacked into and I needed to know if he did it so I called my ex fiancé. He was as cold as could be and distant and said for me to bring it in to my computer guy at work. He said he did not hack into it and he put an end to the conversation. I guess that is what I needed.

We are done. I was good with N/C for almost 4 months.  Still hard.
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« Reply #1 on: February 01, 2015, 01:58:02 PM »

Hopefully he told you the truth, and this really does help you move on. If there's one thing we know about pwBPD it's that they admit the things they've done against us, taking responsibility for their actions, right? 
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« Reply #2 on: February 01, 2015, 02:06:51 PM »

Funny thing is it was only his file with his name on it. All of our pictures from previous trips gone... .I changed my password and tried to retrieve them. Nothing. He was so cold and distant like I was just someone he use to know... .sounds like the song... .I think I need to give the ring back.
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« Reply #3 on: February 01, 2015, 09:48:51 PM »

Funny thing is it was only his file with his name on it. All of our pictures from previous trips gone... .I changed my password and tried to retrieve them. Nothing. He was so cold and distant like I was just someone he use to know... .sounds like the song... .I think I need to give the ring back.

Downwhim from my experience he was lying and most likley did take the file with the pics . As most have told me pay no attention to ther words they use words to distract you from ther actions this is how they survive and also how they tricked you to start with ! Look at ther actions and moves and you will find most of the time they are opposite ! He prob wanted those pics as an atatchment he still feels something for you and explains why he was so cold towards you . I've learned this with my exBPD gf her words do not fit her actions example I went NC after she got with my replacement and said lots of nasty things to a mutuel freind then 16 days down the line she rang me when I was sat in that freinds house ! And said I was blocked but clearly wasn't . Long story short I think you may well hear from him again it's just when .
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« Reply #4 on: February 01, 2015, 10:13:42 PM »

Splitback,

My girlfriends said the same thing. I unblocked him for two days thinking maybe this has gone on long enough so that is when his emails went missing. Also, the pictures I was able to see were zipped on Christmas morning at 7:24 am. I would not doubt if he was mad at me that day because by then it was 8 weeks N/C. Who knows but he sure denied it and said for me to go to my IT guy at work. He acted surprised, cold and like I was some idiot.

I also asked him if his replacement was the one calling me at 2:30 am saying she was my twin. He denied that too saying no one he was with did that!#

Yes, he could be lying. I no longer trust him. But, my issue is it set me back. I feel I got closure but I felt I needed to do it.

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