What are some quotes that your T told you about your exBPD or BPD in general?

[NYMike]

Lets focus on you not her.

LMAO.I hate when my T says that... .LOL

[goateeki]

 So Funny Ghandi like I use to say that to my ex... .How can someone even come close to such peacefulness ? Boy I tried it was either that or pull my own hair out. That made me laugh [/quote]
christin, this was about the time he started encouraging me to consider divorce.  By that point, there was no way forward.  She was throwing things, she was questioning her sexuality, she was saying things like "I have always hated you," crawling around on the floor, crying, crawling into closets and hiding.  Really bizarre stuff.  She had a terrible childhood and early adulthood, and it all just exploded last spring.  Not that there weren't many, many signs for the nearly two decades we were together.

It won't be missed.  We have two kids together, and their lives are being affected, but boy do I love the world again, as I once did.

[NYMike]

''Why are you bringing home a broken woman trying to fix it''

'' You dodged a bullet''

'' This is about you Mike''... .errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

'' your obsession to sick woman and wanting to fix them''

[ShadowIntheNight]

Just today:

"If she does have a personality disorder be it narcissism, borderline, schizoid, etc. she is never going to form an attachment to someone in a normal way."

"If she is this then her view on relationships and your view on them is like the difference in physics and quantum physics. One looks at things here on earth, the other looks beyond into space. In other words they may seem similar, but they are vastly different if she has a personality disorder."

"You will never be able to understand what happened to your relationship because you are trying to view it thru your analytical lens. She has a different lens, and if she has a personality disorder then she has a very distorted lens that you will never be able to understand."

Ultimately, it all still sucks.

[NYMike]

Just today:

"If she does have a personality disorder be it narcissism, borderline, schizoid, etc. she is never going to form an attachment to someone in a normal way."

"If she is this then her view on relationships and your view on them is like the difference in physics and quantum physics. One looks at things here on earth, the other looks beyond into space. In other words they may seem similar, but they are vastly different if she has a personality disorder."

"You will never be able to understand what happened to your relationship because you are trying to view it thru your analytical lens. She has a different lens, and if she has a personality disorder then she has a very distorted lens that you will never be able to understand."

Ultimately, it all still sucks.

LMAO... .You made me laugh when you said ''it all still sucks''... .That is so true.It just sucks to fall in love with a Personality Disordered Person... .

Anyway you go it sucks and hurts.To have them here is tough and to have them leave is tough... .We have to pick our poison

IT ALL STILL SUCKS... .

[Lucky Jim]

"When something is crazy, drop it."

[ShadowIntheNight]

Oh, and I forgot this one.

"If she does have a personality disorder she is not going to end your relationship until she has another one firmly in place so that she can land without dealing with the pain."

[christin5433]

So Funny Ghandi like I use to say that to my ex... .How can someone even come close to such peacefulness ? Boy I tried it was either that or pull my own hair out. That made me laugh

christin, this was about the time he started encouraging me to consider divorce.  By that point, there was no way forward.  She was throwing things, she was questioning her sexuality, she was saying things like "I have always hated you," crawling around on the floor, crying, crawling into closets and hiding.  Really bizarre stuff.  She had a terrible childhood and early adulthood, and it all just exploded last spring.  Not that there weren't many, many signs for the nearly two decades we were together.

It won't be missed.  We have two kids together, and their lives are being affected, but boy do I love the world again, as I once did. [/quote]
Yes the world is seeming nicer w/o the need to be Ghandi or Mike Tyson for someone either personality it was hit or miss ? Especially towards end ... .Mine was on her phone 24/7 creating a plan of attack on me... I was laying around watching criminal minds on Netflix ignoring her outlandish attempts to cause me to join her drama... .Which just made her more mad. I felt depleted and it was Christmas... That's all I Could think " it's f Christmas ... .REALLY " zoning on tv . 2 weeks until I finally said I accept ur threat go and go away, I'm so glad I chose to let go. It's gotta be better than dealing w someone who has no idea their even a problem because ALL is my fault. I never knew a depleted deflated deteriorated  person like myself could be the cause of ALL that's wrong in her mind. So yes life feels tough grieving but I'm getting moments of just bliss. It's gonna be ok I'm starting to recognize.

[antonio1213]

My T also told me pwBPD can cut their feelings off, and can lack empathy.

She said that pwBPD use children to keep people in their lives. (as in become pregnant)

She also said that pwBPD are the ones that snap and in an emotional rage or outburst will hit someone or even possibly kill them. I didn't believe her at first but she said that she has seen it before.

When she talked to my stepfather she told him to get away from my mother (who has strong BPD symptoms) because it is possible that she will hurt his daughter…

I take what she said with a grain of salt, but she  does have credibility behind her words. She has worked with BPD people for over 20+ years.

[ShadowIntheNight]

My T also told me pwBPD can cut their feelings off, and can lack empathy.

She said that pwBPD use children to keep people in their lives. (as in become pregnant)

She also said that pwBPD are the ones that snap and in an emotional rage or outburst will hit someone or even possibly kill them. I didn't believe her at first but she said that she has seen it before.

When she talked to my stepfather she told him to get away from my mother (who has strong BPD symptoms) because it is possible that she will hurt his daughter…

I take what she said with a grain of salt, but she  does have credibility behind her words. She has worked with BPD people for over 20+ years.

WOW Antonio, my uBPDexgf tried to used her children as a way to keep me in her life. When she ended our relationship (via a typewritten note in my B'day card) the last thing she said was if I wanted her to send photos of her kids in their activities to let her know. We were together 9.5 yrs and I had know her kids since they were 2 & 4. They loved me and I loved them. I even taught them not to be afraid of the dark by using their batman and Star Wars figures to protect them while they slept! After I blew up at her about how much of an ass she was, she painted me completely black. So they don't have to bear ur kids to use them to keep attached.

I will say this, however, after we were together 2 yrs, she wanted to get pregnant so that we could have a child of our own to raise together (we were a lesbian couple). Fortunately that didn't happen. So it wasn't for her lack of trying to have kids to keep me there even tho she was going to run off.

[lm911]

My T also told me pwBPD can cut their feelings off, and can lack empathy.

She said that pwBPD use children to keep people in their lives. (as in become pregnant)

She also said that pwBPD are the ones that snap and in an emotional rage or outburst will hit someone or even possibly kill them. I didn't believe her at first but she said that she has seen it before.

When she talked to my stepfather she told him to get away from my mother (who has strong BPD symptoms) because it is possible that she will hurt his daughter…

I take what she said with a grain of salt, but she  does have credibility behind her words. She has worked with BPD people for over 20+ years.

Yes, mine tried to beat me after we broke up.

[iluminati]

Lets focus on you not her.

My therapist said the same thing, and I'm grateful for it!